So I'm with my girlfriend, she is amazing, except I don't get to see her as much as I want to. She lives 20 or so minutes away, so I get to see her on the weekends... But recently she has been busy so I its been longer between seeing her

We talk on the phone every night... text constantly... Gah she is so beautiful... Well anyway thats not what I'm posting about.

There is this other girl, lets call her Amy, I have sort of had a minor crush on since the start of this year. She is great, we are getting to become better and better friends as time goes on... Whenever she sees me she comes over and talks to me... and I do the same for her. Whenever I she sees me she smiles and punches me in the arm... good stuff, always good vibes between us.

We are obviously really good friends, but there is just this feeling that there could be more there, you know? Of course I am with my girlfriend, so I can't do anything. I realize this makes me sound like sort of a slimeball... I REALLY do love being with my girlfriend, its just that I can only see her in person every two weeks or so...

To make things more complicated, 'Amy' has been 'seeing' this guy named David. This guy lives about an hour and a half away, and is a year older than her. I sort of get the impression that he is just using her for sex and that kind of stuff... Apparently on Valentines day he drove down an hour an a half to pick her up, then drove to a beach and hooked up with her... I talked to her about it and she says she sees him once every couple of weeks... It is just weird though because she never talks about him, if asked she acts a bit odd. He doesn't call her his girlfriend, 'Amy' has her Facebook status as single...

I just feel like Amy deserves so much more... I really do care about her. I'm obviously not in a position to do anything...

What do you think is the deal with Amy?

What should I do?

I wish I could stop thinking about her in that way... I wish we could just be good friends... I have feelings for both girls...

I understand that you love being with your girlfriend.
But you seem to really care about this other girl, a lot.
Maybe its time for you to make a choice.
Your girlfriend or 'Amy'.

You hardly see your girlfriend, but how much do you see 'Amy'?
And if you're worried about 'Amy's' boyfriend is using her for sex and you think she deserves better then why don't you talk to her about it.
You both seem to like eachother a lot, and you seem to flirt too.

It all comes down to who you have more feelings for.
Goodluck.

I agree with *Rawr* on everything, except one thing.

If I were you, I would avoid talking to her about her boyfriend possibly only wanting her for sex...it's just not your place to poke around in.

Drew,

Yeah I obviously wouldn't do that... The thing is though he isn't even her boyfriend... Like it seems like he just doesn't want to get serious with her...

Like I said, her Facebook status still says single... if that means anything.

The Facebook thing doesn't mean anything. I was with a girl for 8 months, and both of us didn't realize that we needed to change it until we weren't seeing eachother anymore. It probably just slipped his mind.

I know you like her, but I suggest you back off. If he is using her for sex, she will figure it out at some point. Or, she may not be looking to get serious with anyone, she may just be looking for someone to fool around with, and this guy got to her before you did =p

On the arm punching thing when she walks past you in the halls...that really doesn't seem like she likes you like that, it sounds like a "friendship" thing. Well, that's what it means where I live, anyways.

Good luck.

To avoid complicating things, I would say you wait a little while and see how things pan out.
See, I was basically in the EXACT same situation. I had a boyfriend and we loved each other, but we lived a little ways away and could only IM. There was another guy at school I'd had a little crush on for a long time etc etc.

The only differing factor is this David character. Before acting, I'd say find out a little bit more about him and his relationship with Amy. See if he really is just using her.

Also, see how things go with your girlfriend. In my situation, my boyfriend and I were, unfortunately, distanced as he became more and more busy, and we never got to talk anymore. So, I ended up having to break up with him and now I'm dating the other guy. I'm still friends with my ex though so it's all good.

If you start to lose touch with your girlfriend and be too distanced from her, then break up if you really feel you have to. Either way, if David is just using Amy, and you find this out FOR SURE you should talk to her about that.

If you break up with your girlfriend and David and Amy 'break up', then ask Amy out.

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Thanks Cheetolemur... that is actually some pretty good advice.

How often were you able to see your boyfriend who lived away from you? (If you don't mind me asking...). How far was he?

Well what you're doing is emotional cheating.
You should tell your girlfriend how you are feeling because if you leave her shes going to feel like trash and that she is just a "disposable"...

Your 20 minutes away, walk there you ass.

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you can help Amy without dateing her. If shes as close as u say she is to you you can talk to her about it and help her that way.

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There is always a possibility that there could be something more with any girl that you know. I'd recommend that you stay with the girl who you are already "more" with. Don't let distance be a factor, if she is only 20 minutes away, how can that be stopping you? Drive to her every weekend or during the week because 20 minutes is nothing compared to a couple of hours being with her.

My Opinion...

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