First of all, I would like to ask anyone who wants to answer:

I am very secure with my personality and looks, but I would love other's opinions,

Am I attractive? tinyurl(dot)com/cxzms3 (Couldn't make links until 25 posts..lame)
(It's kinda awkward I know, but I never get opinions from anyone about it)




So, on with it.

I have posted here about how I think love is a joke, and a waste of time.


You know I wish I had a girlfriend, but also at the same time wish I didn't. I want that feeling everyone gets after class when they run to where they planned to meet, and start walking around holding hands, or whatever. (Bare with me, It's hard to type this)

I see the plus and minus side, and when people come to me for advice, even with lack of experience, I know exactly what to tell them. To me, it's like common sense, and people can't deal with things sensibly while they are in love, and if they can, they are lucky.

I haven't kissed a girl yet, hell, I haven't even held a girls hand.
I have the utmost respect for girls, and have nothing against them, it's just for the longest time I have looked at relationships as a negative thing.

I am most definately not shy, I talk to all girls I want, and have no problem.
I've just put an image in my head of just looking at relationships negatively. I jumped to conclusions. Thinking that every relationship has to be serious. And hey, they can be. But most people do them for the fun that's involved with it.


One thing that throws me off is the outgoing aspect.
I don't really go to parties, social events (fucking sound lame like that heh). In a nutshell, I only leave the house to go to school and back. But it's wierd because I'm the most social person I know.


What am I to do?

Girls opinions: How would you treat or deal with a guy like me?

Guys: Have you been in this situation? What kind of things did/do you do to get out of it?


If you can't answer that, or don't want to, what advice do you have?



(I'm desperate, sorry to come off as a pest)
By the way, I am harcore into music, and my guitar. I heard that was a turn on. lol. hhaha.

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hey with the not going out thing i am sorta in the same trap, i think it is fine if u know enough ppl to not need to go to social events which can be awcward but if u think it is nessacary and u can't get urself to go willingly get ur friends to drag u to them. with the matter on relatonships if there isn't anyone who makes ur thoughts of relationships disapear then just wait just because everyone else is in a relationship doesn't mean u have to hop on the band waggon unless u really feel the urge for it. if this don't answer ur query sorry this is the way i interpreted it with life as i see it.

I understand your situation. Its normal to want things like holdings a girls hands, or company, or even their love. Everyone wants that, your not the only one.
Its sad that you think love is a joke, bcuz if your planning to find your wife one day. Then you would have to open up yourself to people around. You dont have to get intimate, you just to be friends with the girls around you. And one day you may find that there is just this one special girl that stands out the most because she understands you.
For all that to happen, it takes alot of time(it doesnt happen in months), but it will happen.

Secondly, for you social status. Its fine that you are a social person and a person that doesnt go out alot. It just means that you feel more comfortable at home. But once in a while its good to just get out of the house, get some friends watch a movie have fun.

I hope this helps you, and this is just my opinion.

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Thanks for your input.

Although I would like some other opinions on the situation.

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It all depends on the girl and her personality, what she likes to do. It may be a problem, obviously, if you were to be with a girl that likes to go to social events majority of the time. Try to find someone that's neither a total party animal, but not a complete shut in either. There has to be some balance. Going out every so often is good to do and if you can't bring yourself to go out, maybe your girl can. Like I said, it all depends on the girl and how she likes to spend her time.

As far as relationships go, you have to rid yourself of the negative mindset you're in. A relationship is what you make of it. It can be good, or it can bad. If you go into a relationship thinking negatively and that it's more of a burden than anything else, of course that's all it will be at that point. Start looking at relationships from a more positive viewpoint. Think of the positive aspects. Like I said, a relationship is what you make it out to be. It'll take time for you to get out of this negative mindset, just as it would take time for someone to get over fear of commitment, but it can be done if you try. Good luck with everything.

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