Originally Posted by Michael_Unforgiven
the father doesnt know... and im sure im going to lose her because this changes everything and im not sure i'll be in her future in the end.... and yes im sure im going to talk to her about this..
Well, maybe she isn't planning on telling him in the first place. Which means she might not trust him with that information. If she really loved him, and wanted him in her life, she would've told him about the baby as soon as she told you and her cousin.
This is a huge change, true. And your relationship might change. That doesn't necessarily mean it will change for the worse. You'll need to time your talk carefully; she's depending on you for support, and I wonder if she'll get more stressed knowing that her rock-solid anchor is scared, too. But that depends on the person, and I don't know enough about her to do more than speculate on that subject.