ex trouble

emzy21x · 07-07-2009, 08:39 PM

I split from my ex not long ago, we decided to split cos he had trusting issues with me and was becoming abit obsessive. ive recently started a new job and the other night he text me to see how it was going. i wasnt sure whether to text back but i decided to in the end. i told him it was going fine and asked him what he'd been up to, he just replied saying he missed me :S i didnt text back and then the next day he left me a message on my mobile saying he really regreted us splitting how he'll never get another girl like me blah blah. to be honest i did really like him and we planned to go on holiday this month and he still keeps asking me to go. ive said no cos i know we would end up sleeping together or id fall for his charm and we'd be back to square one. i quite like being single at the moment, i'm going out meeting new people and having fun. when i was with him he tied me down and i felt like i was limited to what i could do. i just want us to remain friends but he's not taking the hint. i know some of you will say delete his number but we've know each other for ages and i dont want to resolve us to not speaking at all. x

Bosh Bash Bish · 07-07-2009, 08:42 PM

He needs to accept the fact that your just friends, and thats the way its going to stay.
People have a brilliant way of making other people feel guilty, and it sounds like this is what he's trying to do.

Give him a choice, tell him you can either be friends nothing more, or if he cant deal with just being friends to back off and leave you alone. I know you care about him. but that way he can get over you then maybe you can be friends in the future when he's moved ona bit.

But deffinately stay single if thats how you like it

emzy21x · 07-07-2009, 08:46 PM

thanks.x
i do care about him hell of alot, he is a nice guy deep down but its just the way he acts. he didn't like me going out clubbing with my friends cos he reckoned i'd be going off with other guys. il admit i haven't got the best reputation but i'm honest about it and he knew that i wouldn't cheat on him! i was sick of telling him that. he says he's changed but i know people like him never do. i'm not the kind of girl who answers to people where i am & what time i'm coming back etc. i'd let him do his own thing with his mates at weekends but he didn't like me doing the same. it works both ways.

ThatGuyBrett · 07-07-2009, 09:15 PM

This is how my mom is with my step dad, but in the end she always goes running back. For a few months he does act better but eventually, later on down the road he always shows how much of an asshole he really is. People like this are control freaks and they never change. If you get back with him you will regret it eventually.