advicee?

max2009 · 07-08-2009, 01:23 AM

Hi

I asked out a girl for a date quite some time back, and she said yes problem is i've been waiting patiently but still nothing has been arranged. Before I could understand because of exams, but now I don't understand. I've asked her if she really wants to go kindly and that I understand if she changes her mind but she insists that she wants to. Recently I decided i got sick of being put down every time i asking her if she was free and told her if not before her holiday this sunday then forget it, then she lead me on to believe she would this week, then later on in the week she said she couldn't because she had to get holiday stuff and spend time with the family before she went which I unedrstand..

But now i've said forget it if she doesn't meet me for a date this week then I'll give up it's like i've walked away and now there's nothing there anymore, but i regret saying this despite how long i'd been waiting, i'm wondering whether I should wait awhile swallow my pride ask her again or just tell her that i haven't walked away completely and that the offers still there but I don't want to come along as desperate, I just try and get what I want, I know it's best I move on as planned but I still have hope.
Advice appreciated

ThatGuyBrett · 07-08-2009, 02:22 AM

Was that the first actual date you have attempted to set up?

max2009 · 07-08-2009, 02:25 AM

Loads of attempts but none successful, or plans were made but then cancelled - though she says she wants to just doesn't know when,

ThatGuyBrett · 07-08-2009, 02:27 AM

If you really like her then give her the benefit of the doubt. She may be just shy or maybe she is scared to ask her parents if she can go.

max2009 · 07-08-2009, 02:30 AM

Maybe the parent thing, she's very out going though, i'm more shy.

ThatGuyBrett · 07-08-2009, 02:31 AM

How old are you and her?

ThatChickKaty · 07-08-2009, 02:32 AM

I had the same problem with a guy. We kept making dates to meet and then he'd have an excuse not to. Turned out he was avoiding me. That might not be the case. Maybe she truly is busy. Just make it clear that you'd like to take her out and set a date. If she doesn't go or cancels, fine. But despite how long you've waited you should still move on slowly. No need to waste time. But this way at least you know you made a final attempt to work it all out.
Hope I helped any

max2009 · 07-08-2009, 02:45 AM

Both 16.
I've made it clear that I like her etc so that shouldn't be a problem and she doesn't really avoid me though she often ignores me when she's in a bad mood :\

ThatGuyBrett · 07-08-2009, 02:46 AM

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Originally Posted by max2009

Both 16.
I've made it clear that I like her etc so that shouldn't be a problem and she doesn't really avoid me though she often ignores me when she's in a bad mood :

She probably just needs her space when she is in a bad mood... Just give her a while and then try to set something up one more time. Dont make yourself sound desperate tho.

max2009 · 07-08-2009, 02:53 AM

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Originally Posted by ThatGuyBrett

She probably just needs her space when she is in a bad mood... Just give her a while and then try to set something up one more time. Dont make yourself sound desperate tho.

Yeah I probably will I think i'll talk to her normally and not mention it and wait till she gets back from her holiday for a bit till i mention it again, i'm not sure how i should say it, i really care about her but i'm not sure she realises that

harvey · 07-08-2009, 03:03 AM

be patiant it normaly pays off

max2009 · 07-08-2009, 03:12 AM

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Originally Posted by harvey

be patiant it normaly pays off

I been extremely patient and she agrees with me on that.