im very confused! any input plz.

alexjz321 · 07-11-2009, 03:44 AM

Ok im confused because...If you know about the samantha story you'll understand better!
i have a job at a summer camp...
there is a age group were i fit
in but i am staff. that'll help

I had a thought that a girl
had a thing for me. she was
very odd and i never realy
had strong fellings for her.
so after the weeks went
by those felling gone away to
were i jsut didnt care anymore!

after the feelings for samantha
had gone i notice that another
girl had started being flirty.
not i "hey i want to be your freind"
flirty like "i want to be more than
friends" flirty

one day the group she was in went
to the park. i was asighned that group.
we had fun we joked. and when we were at the park
it was like i was the only priority in the world.
ok thats it oh and today we were very close
and i could feel the confustion and akwardness
between us. if thats any help!

i need any input i cant get any of it off my mind!!

alexjz321 · 07-11-2009, 04:39 AM

oh srry for the double posting but
i noticed for the past two days or so
alexa (the girl) talks to one girl about me and they look at me
trying to be unnoticed!\
hope that helped

Uncle Dan · 07-11-2009, 06:27 AM

Umm, what exactly do you input on? I'm confused..

do you want input on*

alexjz321 · 07-11-2009, 07:55 AM

umm...If you think she does like me.
If you think she is acting like she is
nervous aroud me.
just stuff like that

for some odd reason im in a great
mood even while my dad past out
denying he was drunk. meh too bad

Saradactyl · 07-11-2009, 09:32 AM

There is only one way to find out for sure, and that is to tell her that you are interested and ask her out. What is the worst that can happen.. look at the positives vs the negatives.

DareToDream · 07-11-2009, 09:38 AM

Go with your instinct. If you feel there was nervousness because she likes you, why not ask about her feelings? Her talking to her friends about you is usually a good sign. So go for it.

Even if she doesn't like you as more than friends, you may still be able to stay friends with her.

alexjz321 · 07-11-2009, 10:20 AM

I know im looking at the
cup being half empty but

The thing that bugs me is
im an instructor at the
summer camp, it would'nt
just be akward it might
get me fired if the
word got around that she
said noi would be misrible.
but the way i'm
reacting to her i can tell
either never has or hasnt
been in a relationship so
those odds might help.

srry but anymore input
i need somthing to calm
my nerve. its what 2 were
i am. umm any more input
will be nice

I Promise · 07-11-2009, 02:00 PM

ok, well, the first thing I think you need to do is speak to one your managers or someone who runs the camps, and ask them what the rules are for leaders/staff members getting involved with anyone who attends camp. Because, it could well be a dissmissable offence for you to get too close to this girl, while you're officially working there.

Most of these places WILL have rules like that, so you need to clarify it. You could get into serious trouble if anything happened, even if the age is quite close. Because it would be seen as an abuse of power, even if it isn't, and you are not abusing anything. You have to be so careful with things like that, because the world is paranoid with camp leaders/teachers/scout leaders taking advantage of people around them.

If there is a rule, then you plainly can't allow anything to happen between you on the camp. Now, if anything was to develop outside the camp, when it's over, that's another story. So, the best you can do really is make sure she has ways of contacting you outside when it's all over, if she wants to. And that way, maybe you can get to know her better, and you have no risks involved. While camp is in progress, try not to focus just on this one girl, it will be noticed and considered very unprofessional. You're there to do a job, and to treat everyone equally.

Just a point, after camp, nothing might happen, it's weird in camps and things like that because life seems different. You're all in a camp, living each day with no other distractions, and it's a little like being on holiday, sometimes you get close to people and then afterwards, even though at that time they seemed amazing, you get home and never get in touch. Because real life has come back. So, try not to get too close if you can, because you might be building yourself up for a fall. Just keep it professional, but do enough so she knows you do like her, and would like to get to know her more when all the camp is over. And then, it's up to her if she wants to progress anything or not.

I know this might not be what you want to hear, but I can't really advise you on how to get really close to her now, because I am convinced it will get you into serious trouble, and I'm just looking out for you

alexjz321 · 07-11-2009, 11:53 PM

Thank You I Promise
but last year in summer camp
an instructor got in a
relationship with a girl in the
camp so...... im not trying to
break the rules but if we keep
the relationship profesional
in the camp and close out
of the camp could that work?

Stjowa · 07-12-2009, 12:27 AM

Ask the girl out. If she likes you she will go out with you too. If she doesnt you didnt lose anything. It is worth a try

GOOD LUCK!!!

alexjz321 · 07-12-2009, 04:30 AM

thnx all thats all i need!!!