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Old 10-26-2009, 10:36 PM   #1
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My BFF kissed me this morning... i'm very confused

Hello, I just found this forum this morning and so far it's seems the most reasonable place. I'm not entirely comfortable discussing this, but I really need some help to try to figure out what is going on. Sorry if this ends up being kinda long.

A few months ago , I transferred from a private school to a public, and became very close friends with another girl. I rarely get along with other girls, all my friends have always and only been guys and by all rights, her and I should be at total odds, but within three days we became bff's and very close. And honestly, despite only knowing her for a few months, probably the closest friend I've ever had.

This morning she calls me and asks me to come over 30 minutes early before school because she had a huge and devastating fight with her boyfriend last night. So I go over and try to comfort her. I'm giving her a big huge and she stops crying and we give each other a friendly kiss... but then she kisses me again, in a very bf/gf kinda way. I was really shocked and surprised but I just went along with it, mainly out of confusion.

This morning after first period she drags me into a bathroom stall and was all excited because she broke up with her bf, and then she kisses me again in the same way, though quicker and before I could say anything she had to run off to her next class.

I'm very confused on how to approach this, I've never been bisexual, and she has never mentioned to me that she was. I'm not even sure if she is, or if this is normal? Right now I feel like I accidentally ended up in a relationship with another girl. For being a girl, I know like nothing about girls >.<

I have no idea how to talk to her about this, but I do know that the last thing I want is to lose the only girl that I have ever been able to be friends with.
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Old 10-26-2009, 10:45 PM   #2
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Re: My BFF kissed me this morning... i'm very confused

ask her why she kissed you like that.
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Re: My BFF kissed me this morning... i'm very confused

Oh dear =S You've probably made this worse buy going along with it and not just pushing her away... At this point all you can do is tell her straight out that you're uncomfortable with the way she kissed you and make it clear that you are straight, and not interested in her that way... Good luck!
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Re: My BFF kissed me this morning... i'm very confused

Make it clear before its gets out of hand and she gets hurt bad again. She's probably as confused as you and probably hates guys alot at the moment because of her break up..
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Re: My BFF kissed me this morning... i'm very confused

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ask her why she kissed you like that.
Thanks ... that should have been totally obvious to me lol

Sorry, I've just had my world flipped over and can't think straight at all.


The reason I didn't push her away when she kissed me was mostly because of shock. It was probably the most unexpected thing that's ever happened to me. I'd be in less shock if a meteor struck my car. I guess I just didn't really know what to think of it. I still don't.

I should note that I never had any women in my life either. I was raised by a single dad, all the kids near by are boys, all my doctors are boys, and girls usually hate me because of boys. Heck, even my old school was 80%+ guys. One small dorm for the girls, and 4 huge dorms for the guys. I've also always avoided teen melo-drama.

Also, as far as "man hating", that's probably me more than her right now. She's the one that broke up with him, but those reasons are another issue entirely.
We've always been really affectionate with each other, but besides that, no signs that she was into girls in a romantic sorta way. If anything I felt that she was more into guys than even I am.

I'm also worried about making her feel uncomfortable, like maybe to her this is just friendlier affection? I'm also worried that maybe I led her onto this by not setting boundaries in our friendship?

Being friends with guys is so much easier, at least I have them all figured out
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Old 10-27-2009, 12:44 AM   #6
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Re: My BFF kissed me this morning... i'm very confused

Jeez I hope she didn't break up with her boyfriend for you.
Are you sure you didn't accidentally lead her on and give the impression you were bi?
It seems a pretty random gesture otherwise.
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Re: My BFF kissed me this morning... i'm very confused

:s That's a hard one. I'd recommend what the others have said and sit down and asked that you didn't feel comfortable about it. Unless, of course, you don't mind being bisexual...but eh, the friends thing sounds alot better.

You don't have us figured out. You never will. :P
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Old 10-27-2009, 06:50 AM   #8
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Re: My BFF kissed me this morning... i'm very confused

Next time she is about to kiss you get a video camra out and record it, make sure you kiss back with tongue.

I will then tell what to do.
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Old 10-27-2009, 10:47 AM   #9
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Re: My BFF kissed me this morning... i'm very confused

Just communicate with her. Ask her why she did it and tell her how you feel about it - that you're uncomfortable with it.
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Re: My BFF kissed me this morning... i'm very confused

I wouldn't expect to be as good friends after though..
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Re: My BFF kissed me this morning... i'm very confused

sorry to be a dick but it is kinda funny. You're like an accidental lesbian or something.

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Re: My BFF kissed me this morning... i'm very confused

try it again see how you like it and report back? lol
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Old 10-27-2009, 10:13 PM   #13
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Re: My BFF kissed me this morning... i'm very confused

I lol'd at the last two posts, at least someone else is also seeing the humour in it.
To the OP: It doesn't really matter how you go about it I guess, your main aim should be to make absolute sure you don't hurt her feelings or jeopardize your friendship. Are you sure you don't like her in that way? I still find it strange that she'd just kiss you without some form of hint.
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Old 10-28-2009, 02:39 AM   #14
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Re: My BFF kissed me this morning... i'm very confused

Is this girl attractive? Do you find her attractive? If you do, and you're best friends (clearly), then it might not be shock you're experiencing... more a desire to experiment, perhaps.
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Re: My BFF kissed me this morning... i'm very confused

My advice, don't experiment/explore coz you already know that it's not the wisest thing to do. Just communicate with her on why she did it, how you don't want it to ruin your friendship, how you don't want it to happen again, etc...
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