There's this guy that goes to my school and I've been talking to him online since July, but I haven't actually got around to talking to him in real life because we only see each other passing in the halls.

Anyway, I hate it because online he'll always tell me to say 'Hi' to him if I see him in the halls, but he never says 'Hi' to me first! And I know he sees me!

We'll be passing by each other, but I won't look at him until I'm right by him, and he's already looking straight back at me but looks away quickly when he notices I'm looking back and gets this weird look on his face.

He did it today when we were walking out of lunch! I almost ran into him as he was coming around the corner and I was RIGHT there, 2 ft from him, and all he did was look over at me, we made about a second of eye contact and he looked away quickly without saying anything!

he is shy!

I think you need to make the first move

When you see him next, just say Hi, but sort of stand in his way too

make sure to smile aswell, then just let the conversation go from there

If he ignores you and walks around you or something, then he might not be interested

But let me know what happens alrite

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Yeah, he's obviously just really shy. So you're either gonna have to accept that as part of his personality or give up on him. With people like that, best thing to do is be (relatively) forceful and make them be less shy.

~Maggot

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Judging from the information you have given us, like the others, that he is probably a very shy person. Such as myself. We tend to have more confidence and open while online, but in person is a totally different story. What you have to do, if you like him, is to make the little efforts and moves to get him out of his 'box' and start being more open to you.

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This could not be more wrong. With people who are socially akward, shy, or simply introverted more than the next guy/gal anything done in a manner that they would consider forcefull is threatening and will cause them to want to back off. Being shy isn't a problem or a handicap of some sort that needs to be fixed out of people its merely a trait some have and others don't.

What you should do is initiate a conversation and stick to smalltalk and asking him simple questions. Not like whats two plus two? more like 'seen a good movie lately?' this will let him ease into opening up to you offline(IRL ftw)

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Open honest communication is the most important thing in any interpersonal relationship you will ever have.

Yep, they're right. He's very shy. I know this because I do the same thing. I get too nervous most of the time to speak to anyone that I may like. I pretend like I don't see them. Even though I really want to be talking with that person. If it is because he's shy then he won't talk to you first. It also might feel a little awkward talking to him. Might put off a rude attitude when really he's trying to calm himself down and still remain "cool" .. I get looked at as a stuck up bitch, but whatever. People talk and always will..

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so brittany, just out of curiousity

If your really shy like that, do you still hint at your crush hoping that they will make the first move?

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No.. I wait. If I get no sign of interest I just let it go and tell myself it wasn't meant to be. I hope to change that someday for the right person.

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yeah

It can be hard, but sometimes waiting and being shy can just be the worst thing to do

I really liked a girl for like 4 years, then I finally had the courage to talk to her and we chatted for a while and I realised that she wasent for me, after all that time

I just wished, as soon as I started liking her, I would have just gone up to her and said Hi

As they say, the more you think about it, the harder it is, better to just go with your gut

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Thanks. I will definitely keep that in mind next time. I won't think twice.

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well there is nothing wrong with getting to know them

just like when somebody add's you on msn or whatever and you talk for a few mins and you realise if your gonna get along with them good or not, exactly the same

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I've had many shy guys into me and even more as friends. I'm used to dealing with them. Unless they're extremely insecure and freaking paranoid, they aren't going to view someone striking up a conversation with them as "threatening."

~Maggot

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The problem I have with what you said is that you said "force him to not be shy" You shouldn't force anyone to do anything, not even bringing up with being shy isn't some kind of stigmatic thing that has to be removed from people. Or would be a reason to cease interactions with them.

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Open honest communication is the most important thing in any interpersonal relationship you will ever have.

That's not what I said. I said be relatively forceful, as in strike up a conversation and not let him back out of it too easily. I didn't say chain him to the wall and force him to talk.

Please do learn to read.

~Maggot

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What Goddess said. Use the (relative) force.

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