I know it's unfair. I REALLY need help.

Camellia · 11-12-2009, 11:44 AM

Well, here's the story;
I've been sick all my life...

Just last summer I met this amazing guy, and I fell in total love.

To this very day, we are still together..

The trouble is?
I'm getting weaker with everyday and the doctors say I have just over 2 months left in me.

To make a long story short, everytime my weakness comes up between my boyfriend and I; I just pass it off as being tired from work or its just the flu bring me down..

So what I'm saying is.. he has no idea...

Laundry · 11-12-2009, 08:19 PM

Omg.....are you serious or are you just ripping off "A Walk to Remember"...either way its pretty sad T-T. If you arent, however, watch that movie, it has all the advice you need.

Camellia · 11-12-2009, 10:37 PM

I'm not ripping off anything.

This story is the truth...

I have seen the movie a couple of years ago..

But not everything plays out like a movie...

PocketFluff · 11-12-2009, 11:08 PM

You need to sit down and tell him about your illness. How can he forgive you if you die and he didn't know about it?
You have to think about how it will effect him. In the long run he should know because then you can both spend the time you have left together and make each day worth it. You can give him the strenght to go on after you go!
Think about if he was sick and you were the one to be losing him. I know it is hard but you need to be adult about it and tell him

Best of luck with everything

Camellia · 11-12-2009, 11:16 PM

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Originally Posted by PocketFluff

You need to sit down and tell him about your illness. How can he forgive you if you die and he didn't know about it?
You have to think about how it will effect him. In the long run he should know because then you can both spend the time you have left together and make each day worth it. You can give him the strenght to go on after you go!
Think about if he was sick and you were the one to be losing him. I know it is hard but you need to be adult about it and tell him

Best of luck with everything

I've been sick for as long as i could remember. .

I have always relized the fact that i would die young, actually i have lived even longer then the doctors gave time for.

The only thing that wholes me back from spilling the beans to this wonderful guy is..
Breaking his heart then having to leave him alone..

I have let go of my illness, but i can not let go of him...
I know all of this reads to be confusing... its hard to get the feeling out in words..

Putting myself in his shoes is an eye-opener..

Thankyou. Really, it means alot to me. .

PocketFluff · 11-12-2009, 11:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Camellia

I've been sick for as long as i could remember. .

I have always relized the fact that i would die young, actually i have lived even longer then the doctors gave time for.

The only thing that wholes me back from spilling the beans to this wonderful guy is..
Breaking his heart then having to leave him alone..

I have let go of my illness, but i can not let go of him...
I know all of this reads to be confusing... its hard to get the feeling out in words..

Putting myself in his shoes is an eye-opener..

Thankyou. Really, it means alot to me. .

But you can help with it if you tell him
He will feel so confuse if you die and he didn't know why, he will feel like he has wasted time with you when he could of done more! He will feel like thatwhen you tell him anyway, but at least this way he has 2 months with you when he can spend everyday with you and make you feel loved and stuff!
It'll all be ok

Don't be scared. You seem like such a brave girl it is soo impressive

Camellia · 11-12-2009, 11:34 PM

You are sweet as pie.

Thankyou for your kind words...

i know i have to tell him no matter the outcome...
i owe it to him...

i can not be so selfish..
because even if he do not cope with this.. at least he knows now instead of later..
and perhaps he can then get over it.

if i can deal with this illness then i should beable to tell the truth one last time..

recondinent · 11-13-2009, 01:51 AM

That's devastating...

Wish you luck with telling him.

Aerctic · 11-14-2009, 10:49 PM

Wow this is so sad...

I agree with everyone's advice: Tell him as soon as possible. I'm sure he will understand.
Anyone would admire you for doing something so brave. :smile: I sure would.