Alright so I started dating this girl a month ago and she was wanting to date me for the past year. I finally dated her to find out she is the best thing that has ever happened to me. We only dated for one month and everything went great. The last weekend we spent together could never have been more perfect. Then a week and a few days ago I get a text from her saying "We need to talk abotu us, I think I have to break up with you." So I asked her why and she said, "My mom thinks I'm too young". For the past week I went insane wondering what the hell was going on, until I finally got a straight answer of, "I don't want a serious relationship, my mom helped me realize that, and that it would get in the way of the things I want to do". Before this whole break up that is what she wanted, a serious relationship, and then she throws this at me. The last few days I've been fine with everything, minding my own life and what not, but it haunts me every now and then, I feel like she is the one, but at the sametime I told myself before we went out that it would never get this serious. I plan to ask her to prom later of next year, but I feel like I shoudl give her a bunch of time. It seems she's really convinced from what her mom told her. Plus she cared for me and loved me like no other person has, told me she wants to be with me forever and bam this.

I just want feedback from you guys, because I know shit happens and I'm moving on atm.

omg, so her mom told her to break up with you, so she does?

jesus girls like that really piss me off, its always somebody close to them like a friend or something that makes the choice for them

anyways, so what was her reason? focussing on school? did she give a reason?

Did you ask her how SHE felt? if this was HER decision?

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You need to understand that it sucks. Parents interfering is ridiculous. But that sort of thing always happens. But you also need to see, that you're still young. You may suspect she's the one now, but you still have so much time to go out and meet people. To grow as a person. Everyone changes. You'll change, take on different life paths. Things will fall into place.

Everything happens for a reason. Good things fall apart for one reason or another, so that perhaps something better can come along. Good luck.

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Still quite a few highschool sweet hearts fall in love and get married

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True, but the possibility for him finding someone else is quite a large percentage. Especially since they were only together for a month. :/

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Get a straight answer out of her about how she feels. Ask her if she'd still like to hang out as friends occasionally..

First off, how old are you and her? Secondly, her controlling parents need to wake up. Possibly meet them and show how you really are.

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tell ur parents to gtfu

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Let me add a bit more detail. Me and her best friend talked and her best friend was telling me how she still loved me and cared for me and everything. I did nothing wrong, I'm 100% sure of it, she broke it off because what her mom told her and she agreed with what her mom told her. So I was asked, your just going to drop everything because you agreed with your mom? So I have this feeling that she still does like me and cares abotu me, but just pushed it to the side because of what her mom said to her. Usually when we got in a fight she'd apologize within 2 hours which I was expecting with this, but I was completley wrong xD. Hope that clarifies some things.

Her mum has her convinced that her career is the most important thing in her life and that you are going to get in the way of that, even though thats total shit and her job is never going to be the greatest thing in her life. Her mum just thinks that because her marriage sucks.

Well face it, the biggest influence in childrens' lives are their parents. So of course she's going to listen to her mom. Parents often have good advice to offer, but we being as teenagers don't often see that because we're all about independence and doing "what i wanna do". We're all a victim of this.

Perhaps she does have a lot of feelings for you, so she's stuck between her family and you. It's gotta be a tough decision. I've never really had this problem, because my parents were always cool with my boyfriends while we were dating. (It's after we broke up that they didn't like them anymore. )

Her mom probably wants her to focus on school and whatever else she wants to do. Lots of times boys and relationships can be a distraction. Don't take it too personally, let her get things straightened out with her mom. After all, you want her parents to like you.

Good luck.

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Haha, she has mentioned her moms a cunt and she doesn't really listen to her alot, so it bothers me that she listens about this. And plus with her she said her life was shit till I came, that everybody made fun of her and stuff(and I don't see why), but yeah. I planned to let things take its course and later down the road maybe visit the idea again.

Just be the caring friend for now then. She'll see that you really want to be with her then and probably revisit the idea again herself.

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I love when people neg rep me, who are still in school and dont work, and who's opinions are completely based on what their parents have told them.

trust me, your job is never going to make your life, people and hobbies make your life, work allows you to do other stuff, you will not enjoy work, no matter how awesome it is at first, it will get boring after a while, and your still going to have to do it.....


have you EVER heard your parents come home from work and say "fuck, that was an awesome day at work, i love work, i want to go back early tommorrow, and the manager had to throw me out tonight"

i rest my case...

My father does all the time, he even sleeps over at work... But that's besides the point, I understand what you are saying. :P

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