Alright, this could get a little lengthy but here is my situation....

I've known this girl for about 2 years now; I've pretty much liked her since I met her(at first I felt that I would go out with her but I didn't really have to, but now I like really want to be with her). Our friendship is weird though, it's almost like an off and on relationship, we'll talk like a lot for a while, then we won't talk to each other for a while(currently, we are talking a lot). Anyway, whenever we do like start talking again, and I try to make an impression and whatnot, but she always seems to go out with some other guy or is already with someone.
Fast-Foward to today
She has a boyfriend and I ended up telling her how I felt (even though I thought she knew before she says she had no clue that I felt the way I do). And she thinks that I'm a pretty good guy, but that's about all I know on how she feels about me.
So my question is, should I just give up on her, mostly considering I don't even know how she feels about me (which is even lower considering she has a bf), or should I maybe wait and hope that whenever her relationship is over, maybe we can start one?

I feel like the sensible choice is to just give up on it, but it's hard and my heart hopes that something will happen, but then again, hope is evil.

Oh and right now, she is spending the night at her boyfriend's house, which is really killing me right now.


This might all seem retarded and I'm sorry for it but whatever.

Move on.

She'll hate you for waiting, especially since she already has a man. Time to let go, and find someone new to start thinking about. Easier said than done.

Red flags (things to tell you shes NOT interested):
- She has a boyfriend.
- She said you're a good guy, and thats it. Meaning she doesn't want you as in her life as anything more than a friend, so don't bother.
- She's spending the night at her mans house after you told her how you feel I must be crazy but thats a sure sign of "bug off."
- If she runs to you when they break up, all you'll ever be is a friend.
- If she only really talks to you when she has a new man, then you're pretty much not going to be him.


I sound mean and whatnot, but I'm telling you like it is. I don't sugarcoat things like "aww, thats so sad, I hope you guys work out" or "here's how you get the girl" because that would be shitty.
Hope that helped you realize that you should definitly find someone new.

well said! cheerio!

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Yeah I don't like to sugarcoat things either. I know I need to move on, I just thought I'd feel better posting it for some reason.

Shes shy move on....

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im totally in the same situation, and i keep hoping one day we could end up together if me and my current bf dont work out...but i know i have to stop thinking like that. idk, i guess its cause he was the first guy that i ever gave my all too, and i got his all in return, plus we're still close now, best friends, which is what i think makes it harder.

for a while iv been considering cutting off from him totally, because we have off periods aswell when we dont talk much (thats what we're in now) and i cant really deal with that. last night i got a voicemail off him, it must have got pressed in his pocket or something, but it was him and his gf watching a film, laughing, giggling, there was lots of shuffling around and stuff, and when i listened to it this morning i was crying (i am now aswell, all of a sudden) so yeah, maybe cutting it all off might help?

putting hope in something that you clearly know wont work out isnt worth the pain.

I agree.

So sorry.

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Bisexual and proud.

That happened to me.

[I just thought of that and am too lazy to go back and edit my post.]

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Bisexual and proud.

If the friendship is on and off then move on to someone different. c29o, let me tell you something man. I have seen a few of your posts. I feel that I have been in simaler situations. If you want please contact me on aim. Palinkinizer, thats if you have it of course. Throw a pm my way and we can get this down.

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What am I supposed to do, lie to the kid so he gets laughed at? No thanks. Go drink a bottle of bleech.

ALWAYS feels best to get things off your chest.

Nice.

And it's spelled bleach, btw.

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Give it one last shot. Sit her down one day when you're alone and ask her straight out "how do you feel about me?" if she can't give you an answer then i'd give up. It's not worth it. At the end of the day.. you'ver made the first move and if the feeling was mutual then she would've made the next move. I don't think it's gonna work but give her the befit of the doubt. People make mistakes... not gettin with you may be one of hers