tonight, me and my girlfriend whent out to a movie, after words she was going on and on about how hot the main character was and it was making me really jealeous. it was really really cold out so i gave her all of my sweatshirts and jackets because i told her i wasnt cold. she still was cold and wanted her new movie star boyfriend to warm her up. it furthered my annoyance so i started going on about one of the other character in the movie and how hot she was....baisically we got into a fight...i didnt really realize it was a fight until the car ride, i had thought it was just a game...on the way home she was crying. and scooted as far away from me as she could. by the time we arrived at her house she was sobbing and her eyes were bloodshot. i walked her to the door and she gave me this look that told me i had really really really fucked up, and i knew it. i love her like the air itself and i couldnt breathe without her. she is the very essense of life and to have messed up this bad, to have reduced her to tears....i just dont know what to do....can anyone help? i know it was long and sorry but i really dont know what to do.i dont want to lose her.

Okay, celebrity crushes are completely normal. You overreacted about her thinking they were hot. Nothing comes out of celebrity crushes, everyone has at least one. You let your jealousy get the best of you.

Call her in the morning and apologize for the way you acted, better yet, show up at her house and apologize. Talk things out with her.

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i know, i did admit to being jealous, and i apologized to her and she knows that i didnt mean to, but i dont know if we can keep doing this, we have been dating on and for a long time and we really really love each other. but its these stupid little things that keep ripping us apart, and we both know that if this keeps up it will not end well. we have been best friends since we met and over the years we have gotten extremely close. everythig about my life revolves around her to have to keep going through these emotional roller coaters...i just dont know wat to do, we need this to stop, neither of us can stand getting hurt so deeply and so often, we are all we have to each other in our worlds....

Ehhh, I'm on the fence about this one.

1) She shouldn't have been going on about how hot he was, then saying she wanted him to warm her up. I mean, it's fine to say, "Damn, he was hot!" or something like that. It's normal. But there's a point where people need to let it go and remember they have a boyfriend/girlfriend.
2) You let your jealousy get the best of you, and that wasn't the most rational or mature way to handle the situation. You should have either just joked with her about it - maybe pretending to be hurt or something. Or, if it was really getting to you, politely asking her to stop.
3) She shouldn't have reacted that way when you started, since she was just doing it. Of course, I can't hear the conversation, so maybe you're leaving something important out without realising it.

Looks like you're both just too jealous, immature, and combative. This like this shouldn't turn into a fight, and if it does, it's not a problem with your relationship so much as with your personalities - something you both need to address and work on.

~Maggot

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okay yes i know i was immature, and i realize i couldve acted beter but i didnt just get mad at her and sulk, i played it, i went in depth to what i really would get out of being with this pretend character, and she followed suit, i hadnt realized it but at some point she began to flounder and pull things from really deep inside and...well i guess i made it sound like i didnt want her, i feel like a douche, and i really want her to know how much i am ashamed. how can i tell her just how sorry i am?

Also, you two make mountains out of molehills. Okay, yeah, so you both fucked up a bit. Get over it and move on. Shit like that has happened with my boyfriend - very close to this, actually - we apologise (or one of us does, depending on the situation), and we move on. That's the end of it. You two are gonna keep having problems if you insist on being so damn dramatic about everything. "She began to flounder and pull things from really deep inside"? Wtf? Sounds like some over-dramatic teen angst shit.

~Maggot

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alright, thank you for your concern laura, i greatly appreciated it. you have helped me see that life is full of pain and hardships, as well as reminded me how well teens can can succed at being ruthless. this website is for teen advice. i come here looking for help because i know no one and i had hoped to find refuge from the merciless world. i appreciate your concens but i see now why i had not shared ANYTHING with the world.

"She began to flounder and pull things from really deep inside"? Wtf? Sounds like some over-dramatic teen angst shit.

yeah that angst shit is me, so go on with your life and do watever the fuck you want but know this; you accuse everyone else of being so immature and dramatic, but wat about yourself? these posts are real people with real feelings and to say something like that is incredibly hippocritical. i dont really care what you have to say, and i have learned a valuable lesson. NEVER trust anyone. i will not be posting on teenhut again. i dont know what happened to you in your life time but i know that it does not give you the right to critisize everyone else. you are no different then any other teen who is insecure and it is because of people like you that push people off the edge.

Ah, well. You'll live.
I told you the truth about your relationship, which you asked for. I wasn't nice about it, I didn't sugar-coat it, because I shouldn't have to. You should be a big boy and deal with reality. And if you can't, that's not my problem.

~Maggot

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very true and well said, thank you, for your time and your concern.

goodbye
~E*k~

Toodles.

~Maggot

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