So my best friend really likes this one girl, and he's asked her out once but got rejected. He then decided he would keep trying, and recently he told me that he still really likes her. I liked her (let's call her Jenny) last year, but didn't really make a move at all, and naturally my best friend and I tell everything to each other. After I told him I didn't like Jenny anymore, he told me that he would ask her out, which he did. Recently, Jenny and I have become way better friends, getting really intimate and I've discovered that I really like her.

Just today, after school, she leaned her head on my shoulder and told me how cold she was, and I really wanted to reach over and hold her tight, but I just didn't do it. She then stopped being intimate after around 5 minutes of leaning against me and started acting normal. I regretted it so much, because I've put my arms around her before but I didn't this time and she actually initiated it. When I was walking home, my heart actually ached because I was regretting it so much and I just wanted to beat myself up about it. I think it was the perfect opportunity to break the touch barrier even more.

So my issue is: how can I tell her how I feel without asking her out directly? Because she told me that she doesn't enjoy dating very much.

My second question is how do I tell my best friend about all of this? I really don't want to risk our friendship but I feel really good about Jenny.

first off, you said your friend asked her out, but you didn't clarify her response. is she dating him or not? if not, that would make it easier to talk to her. let her know you like her, and mention you didn't put your arm around her because you were afraid you would anger your friend. as for dating her, what if you set a sort of casual relationship, not neccasarily dating, but more than just friends. concerning your friend, if you guys are really that close, he shouldn't let himself risk a friendship because he lost out. there's always another girl out there that could be the one for him. it's just not his time now. it would be good to talk about this stuff soon though, you wouldn't want to her wait so long that she moves on, and hiding that from your friend could lead to hard feelings later on. good luck!

wow...your in the exact same boat as me only I'm not close to the girl like you are and my friend is going out with her...it's really upsetting, I don't know what to do

i befriended a girl a couple years ago, became fairly close, and started liking her several months ago. someone asked her out a month ago. i didn't know until i tried asking her out 3 days later. stuff happened, she's not dating him anymore and now she won't talk to me at all.

girls are confusing, am i right?
oh, and JP88, i posted on your topic. read it for me, it'll do ya good.

if he is your best mate tell him u need to speak to him and explain it and if she means more to you than him then wat he says makes little difference but if he is more important then listen to wat he says and respect wat he says. u may hav to let go of her for your freind but a freind is a freind for life a girl well they come and go (not always)

Well, obviously your mate isn't going anywhere. Just explain to him the situation and get his approval. Then next time, don't sit there and be ignorant about it, do what you want. Put your arm around her, Give her your jacket, etc. Just keep getting closer with her and eventually ask her out to dinner sometime. Good luck and I'm sure you'll do well!

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