Ok, This is a slightly complicated situation which I feel I need some help with.....

This summer I got quite close to a girl. I even went to her house....A couple of weeks after it, she told me that during that period of time she had liked me as more than a friend and truth was I had too, and I still did. However, she didn't. For some reason after telling her that I had too she seemed to like me again. Although stating 'I'm sure I'll want to date you when the time is right...' This confused me BIG TIME. When would the time be right?! A couple of weeks later we went to the cinema. There wasn't any romance however we did get on really well! After this though we didn't really speak for a couple of weeks. We then got texting again and I hinted at her that I still liked her (as more than a friend). She didn't really react as I would of hoped. She basically just changed the topic....However once again after telling her this she seemed to be more interested in me. We then began to get closer than ever...She even called me 'handsome' in a text. We arranged me to come to her house again. After the visit she didn't seem interested in me anymore. I decided that I would leave it for a while and maybe text in a couple of weeks time. I did this and, frustratingly the same thing happened as before. We got closer. She was supposed to come as my date to the fireworks but pulled out on the day. She still seemed interested as she continued to text me. It was earlier this week that we went to lunch. After it she didn't seem interested in me at all AGAIN. And today when I asked her if she wanted to go to lunch again next week she just said 'Maybe' then changed the topic...

And here I am now. This girl is confusing. She seems to enjoy it when I tell her / hint at her that I like her but the same thing keeps seeming to happen. We drift apart. I'm unable to talk to her in person about it as I'm really shy and I don't think she would understand my situation.

My main problem is that I am CRAZY about her. The time we spend together is just so enjoyable it would be such a shame to lose her......

Should I just give it a couple of week and try and get close to her again and then cease the opportunity and just ask her out?!



Cheers guys

it sounds to me like she likes you, she's just unsure about making the step to dating. maybe she's feeling pressure from friends or family over you? if you feel it's appropriate, maybe you should sit down and talk to her. ask her why she keeps dodging the subject even though she is telling you she likes you. girls can be confusing, and she may be 'testing' you to see how you act now. it's their way of seeing if you're worth dating. keep talking to her, but make sure not to push too hard. you don't want to seem pushy.

No need to keep playing her game. Just tell her "Look, I'm into you. If you want something to happen let me know, but I can't keep playing this game." and then SHUT UP and STOP TALKING to her. The ball is in her court now

She'll either
1.) keep trying to play the game and you know you're just wasting you're time
2.) she'll stop and move on to someone else
3.) she'll stop acting so flaky and realize that you're worth it

It sounds to me as if she has a boyfriend already and is keeping you around as either a backup or because she likes the feeling of a guy that's into her. Or maybe not, which is why you should tell her what i said above

To me its sounds like shes just stringing you along.

I was "Seeing" a girl who did the a similar thing. When she did text me, there was alot of flirting, i took her to cinema and we went for a drive after.

Anyway, when ever she had more interesting things to do, she would stop texting me all together, for 1-2 weeks on end.
Then she would text me again.

Then when ever things became promising again she would just cut it off.

You should either confront it, find out how she feels, find out where you stand.
Or move on. (alot easier said, than it is done)

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