i simply cannot have a normal conversation one on one

Monkey Dance · 01-28-2010, 05:55 AM

unless its of stupid things like tv or music....crap like that.

it is beginning to get on my nerve because i try to look interested, ask some questions to keep it flowing but it just doesnt work. i really get to that point where it feels awkward. even if i know them....like today, for example. i was talking with this friend alone and after we solved a problem....it was simply awkward. i wanted to keep talking, but at the end she just said "let's go with the other ones, shall we ???". idk, this happens to me a lot

cassie--valentine · 01-28-2010, 06:05 AM

it should come naturally but heres some more help i cant give

http://www.wikihow.com/Keep-the-Conv...Girl-(for-Guys)
Well seeing how the link isnt working.. heres a overview

Listen. Girls like it when they are truly being listened to. A girl will love it when you pick up small details that she mentioned.
Ask questions. Use the little details you paid attention to to give you ideas for the questions.
Don't be afraid to chime in yourself. Girls like to learn about you, too. Don't interrupt her or derail the conversation, but it's appropriate and recommended to respond to her with something from your own life.
Don't make her feel uncomfortable.
Avoid awkward pauses.
Be interesting.
Ask her what activities she's interested in
Try to end the conversation by mentioning a way to keep the relationship going- another time to talk, exchanging numbers or screen names is always a good way to say goodbye

Sharkbait · 01-28-2010, 05:18 PM

Perfectly normal, just talk about crap with girls, its what the rest of your gender does, unless you by some miracle find a girl who is genuinely interested in something like sport, or video games or women.

Maximus1991 · 01-29-2010, 12:00 AM

What I would say is just practice, if you have some close friends confide this in them and have a conversation with people every time you get the chance. It may be awkward at first and may continue to be awkward for awhile but, things will get better.

Another thing you can do is always have some sort of a backup in case things get awkward, be it getting back to work at school or some topic which you know well enough you can talk about for several minutes (just don't let it be the weather or some obscure thing they've never heard of).

Monkey Dance · 01-29-2010, 06:44 AM

crap and backup how ???

cassie--valentine · 01-29-2010, 10:09 AM

if you cant take the advice... just stop freaking out about it and pretend its a guy
will you be nervous then?
:S
Just talking about things that they want to hear and stick to a topic you know.

Its not that hard, really.

lostpariah · 01-29-2010, 10:11 AM

ahh cassie..it can be hard tough...

what does a guy do when he only knows things like video games and sports?

SweetTemptations · 02-04-2010, 08:13 PM

lol I don't know about guys but for me my conversation goes diferently with different people, some I connect with and can talk hours on hours about nothing and all and still be genuinely interested, and some just cant hold a conversation with me. If you find someone that has similiar interests it shouldnt that hard to talk to them, once you start all you have to do is keep the conversation flowing.