Hey guys, I need your help.

Okay, so, I was about 7 years old when I met this guy. He is my former piano teacher's son. He is 16 and I am 13. I think I liked him way-back-when but didn't realize it because, now that I do, it's one of the most serious 'crushes' I've ever had. I can't stop thinking about him. He's an amazing guy (red hair, basketball player, 6' 3" or so.) but, here's the kicker: I once dated his younger brother. His brother is my age and we dated for a bit, just going to movies and stuff. Nothing serious. I have a friend I've been talking to about this guy and she says after some stories I've told her, that he may 'like-like' me. I'm kinda scared to tell him because things would be SO awkward, seeing as I go to his house to hang out sometimes. I don't want to mess up our friendship, but, I DO want to see if it could be more than what it is.

He's in a play with my older sister and his mother that I'm going to go see this Saturday. I just don't know what to do.

HELP?!

Don't date him, yet..

Become a friend first. Things will go alot smoother then.

we've been friends for such a long time. nearly 6 years.


I was invited inside by his mom, and when I walked through the door, he sat straight up...

I went to their play last week and he seemed excited to see me, as if he had to do a better job at his non-speaking role. Then after the play, he hugged me, okay, I hugged him first, but he hugged me back...

Oh. I see.

Just to tell you I have not had very good luck with dating older guys. Atleast that much older. Since you know him .. it might go smoother.

thanks. -shrug- I just don't know what to do. He won't get out of my head.

Can't help you.

Just giving you warning, don't go out with him. Stay friends. Espically at your age.

...thanks?

to be honest...if you 13 and hes 16 then you are not emotionaly ready for this kind of relationship, if you are this obsessed with him then i do not reccomend you persueing this untill you are about 18 and he is 21.

you obviously don't know me at all. haha = ] I'm very emotionally mature. I've seen more, emotionally, than most of the people on the face of this earth

I'm sorry, but I'm having a little bit of trouble believing that. I'm not trying to be rude or anything, but I just can't see it.

I agree with Tumbleweed in that you're probably not emotionally mature enough to be in a relationship with a sixteen year old, regardless of what you're thinking.

I think, to put it into perspective, that it might be a bit like having a ten year old come up to you and saying quite seriously, "I really like you. Do you like me back?"

I'd continue to be friends, but try not to get too obsessive (And trust me, I know that can be really hard. ; ] ).

Oh, here's another tip - Try not to curse the obsessiveness constantly in front of your friends and say the same things about him or a wish over and over again. No matter how much your friends love you, that can get REALLY annoying.

Good luck.

i say just ask him..u only live once

The only way you'll know the truth about how he feels is to ask him. If you don't ask you'll never know. Maybe if he doesn't like you that will put your mind at rest and you will gradually get over him. However if he does share th same feelings as you do i just warn you to be careful. You are 13. He is 16. This could be a recipe for dissaster and the age difference and how "experienced" you are might ruin the relationship AND friendship.

Yeah, you have no chance. They might think he 'like likes' you, but 99% he doesn't. He's 16 you're 13......he wants someone whos atleast 15.

That's a pretty large statement there.

No offense, but almost all 16 year olds would never date a 13 year old. I highly doubt that he'll be in a relationship with you being the age you are. At that age 3 years is a HUGE difference. He's basically in another world than you.