need advice

bridgey · 02-07-2010, 08:24 PM

hi everyone
i need some advice, i like this girl at college but im afraid to tell her how much i like her because ive been rejected so many times and other girls ive asked out have spread stuff about me.

Jay Ayy · 02-07-2010, 08:29 PM

I've kinda pretty much been in the same spot of you as being rejected and having girls talk some smack on you. You just got to be confident & think positive. Being nervous & shy gets you nowhere in life. So just keep your head up & try telling the girl how you really feel.
& As for worrying about her saying some negative stuff, just don't even let words phase you.

Radioactive_Pig · 02-07-2010, 08:32 PM

As he said, keep your chin up.
If you let being rejected stop you, then you're going to have some majour problems.
Just give it to her straight. If she rejects you, at least you know. If not, then bloody fantastic. Just go for it.

Christopher · 02-07-2010, 10:37 PM

Hey

Don't worry about what's happened in the past, it just sounds like you've been having some bad luck with the ladies. No worries though, because luck can change. You have to sift through a lot of bad situations to find someone who will actually give you a shot. This may seem obvious, but also make sure you're asking in the correct way. Ask very casually, something along the lines of "do you want to grab a cup of coffee later?", something like that. I'm sure you're not, but definitely don't ask "will you be my girlfriend?" The logical progression is dating>girlfriend, not acquaintance>girlfriend.

Hope this helps

bridgey · 02-12-2010, 03:11 PM

quick update: theres now two people i like, so im going to ask one out on sunday (valentines day) because ones on holiday

SimplyChaotique. · 02-12-2010, 03:22 PM

Sounds like you're set. Good luck!

bridgey · 02-12-2010, 03:31 PM

you know when they give you those little glances

ScientificM1nD · 02-12-2010, 07:38 PM

You have self-limiting beliefs. Your self-limiting beliefs were developed because you were rejected so many times and you let what girls say affect you. My advice? Go for it. Tell her how much you like her. Take a risk. Who knows? She might give you a chance, but you will never know unless you try. And you shouldn't use the excuse "being rejected so many times" to coward away from this opportunity. Just because those girls you asked out rejected you, doesn't mean this girl will. You just have to take a risk and try.

Podunk · 02-12-2010, 08:28 PM

Wait till there is a dance, go ask her if she wants to dance. If she says "no", say this: "Okay that's fine, but next time don't be so picky because I wasn't."

:d

-Sno