insecure :(

pinkpigs4 · 02-08-2010, 04:48 AM

Hey guys...this is my first post and i really need some advice and help.
Ive just met a new guy, only been together a month and im so crazy about him. Im scared my insurities are gona ruin us

i dont know why i am, ive got no reason not to trust him or anything...like when i get a text from him or somethin sayin hes in town clubbin my heart sinks and i cant helping thinking is he gona go home with or meet someone else. i duno whats wrong with me or what to do...please please help me

hope someone can help, thanks

Jasmine · 02-08-2010, 05:45 AM

Well, I think you should communicate with him. Let him know how you're feeling. If you keep it to yourself, it can cause misunderstandings and that will definitely cause conflict in your relationship. Be honest and open with him and see what he has to say about it. Your insecurities aren't going to go away over night. It will take you some time to feel sure about yourself and the security of your relationship. If he's not giving you a reason to not trust him, just remind yourself that you are the one he's with, not anyone else. He's being honest about where he's at, so that's a good thing. Just remember to communicate with him and let him know what's going on. Enjoy your relationship and don't worry so much.

Hope this helped.

pinkpigs4 · 02-09-2010, 06:05 AM

thanks Jasmine...that really did help

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ComplicatedMind · 02-09-2010, 10:18 PM

The more you put them on the leash, the more likely they will run away.

Anyways, what you are trying to say is that your self-confidence is at an all-time low and you are thinking that there are better ladies out there. Wait a minute, stop that. Stop thinking about other girls and just be happy for who you are. If he is with you, then he obviously thinks very highly of you. Guys like ladies with self-confidence and who are able to trust one another. Do this, and things will improve. Yes, you should communicate with them and tell him your worries. Yes, you should think about joining him on these occasions. No, you should not restrict his social life on terms of your fears, worries, and lack of self-confidence. Good luck and Take Care.

assassinROW · 02-09-2010, 10:25 PM

If he is dating you, then he thinks a lot of you. And therefor you should think very highly of your self. I would try thing like looking in the mirror and telling your self that you are amazing and beautiful. Just small thing to build up your confidence.

shorty · 02-11-2010, 05:36 AM

you need some confidence.
there's nothing wrong with you you're perfectly find

every girl has thoughts like this when their bf is out somewhere else.

just remember he's with you! If he didn't want to be with you , he wouldn't be
don't let your insecurities get the best of things, there's nothing you should be worried about if you just be yourself.
and come to love yoruself. and be at peace

pinkpigs4 · 02-12-2010, 12:45 AM

thank you so so much for the guys who have written...it means and has helped alot. its easier said than done...but it has to be done. I hope we'll be ok

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