Hi, everyone - I'm new to these forums. :-) I came here because I have a complicated issue (to me, at least) that I can't seem to understand myself. It's not huge, but I'm one of those types of people that like to analyze things and understand what people are trying to get at when they do certain things.

Here's my story....

I've liked a certain guy for a while. He's older than I am by a year. I actually haven't talked to him that much. He's very shy. We were in one class together last year where we didn't talk much then either. I thought that he might have been interested in me, but I wasn't sure. Since he was shy, he wouldn't come right out and SAY it if he was, but he would do these little things like:

• Look at me, and then look away when I would look at him (even when he was talking to other girls). I've caught him staring at me a lot, in games, class, etc.
• He would stare at me down the hall, and then meet my eyes and say "hi" (hey, it was a big thing for me!)
• Wave to me from his car and give a little half smile
• He would do this little annoying thing where he would not smile or anything, but just raise his eyebrows and say something like, "hey"

I thought it was pretty cool until I found out that he had a girlfriend. Then (since I have serious inferiority complexes) I decided that I didn't have a chance. At all. Period. You see, he's not stuck up jock or anything, but in the popular crowd because he plays basketball...and it's not like I'm a nerd, but heaven knows I'm not the most popular girl in school. I'm sort of the academic, all business, 4.0 valedictorian-to-be. < In elementary school I was the nerd > So I just kind of gave up.

I was happy when I saw him this summer at our fair when I was reigning as rodeo queen (and singing the national anthem at the rodeos), and especially when I heard that he broke up with his girlfriend. Then, I saw him on a date with another girl. My heart was broken again.

THEN He started this weird thing at the fair where, he knew I was there (I sat right by him) but he wouldn't look at me or acknowledge my existance at all. At school now, I know he sees me, but he looks away from me and doesn't greet me like he used to - not in his car either, anything. And this has only been in the past couple of weeks. And I still don't know if he's "with" this other girl that he was on the date with or not.

So here are my questions, I know they're probably stupid, but please bear with me

1). What do you think that he's getting at by all of this? Does he just hate me? I have the hardest time understanding guys, especially ones who don't talk. And when I don't understand things it drives me absolutely up a wall!

2). I haven't actually been open at all about how I feel about him. I'm the sort of person that, when I like someone I sort of.....ignore them, because I think that they won't like me (remember my complexes?). I get told I'm good looking sometimes, but I don't really take it to heart. So I really don't know if this boy thinks that I don't like him at all. I just haven't really bothered because I don't think that he'd be interested. Sort of a shyness issue, I guess. Should I let him know that I think that he's cute and that I would like to get to know him, or am I just better off just to get over him and let what's meant to be ... be?

Sorry for the long, unnecessarily complicated post, but if I can get some input and finally decide what to do, so I can quit dwelling on it, I'll become sane again.

Thanks a ton in advance for your help,

Meekanne

He doesn't seem interested, sorry....he just seems to be nice to you.....but hey who knows......its never going to happen if you're both shy

well hes playing hard to get so you can chase after him

I think that's stupid, he isn't playing hard to get.....he hardly ever acknowledges her

I agree. Sounds like he's not interested.

Yeah, he doesn't seem interested. Sorry.

Wow everyones being so harsh! It seems to me that he IS interested. You said that he was really shy...he just doesn't know what to do around you. He's afraid that if he tries to make a move or something you would just turn him down (which would crush down his low self esteem even further...)

So what he's really wanting you to do is to take initiative and go after him! He will come around very fast after he knows that there is a connection.

Just go and talk to him and ask him out to see a film or something. If he's single you might as well. And even if he is dating other girls its no big deal really...dating someone doesn't mean your going to go out with them.
Once you get to know each other more i doubt either of you will by shy around each other.

Well first off, everyone isn't being harsh, they're being honest.

But I think that you have a chance and you should just be open.

How is he getting those other girls if he doesn't know how to act and is shy? I don't think he's shy....just not interested.

honestly? no, it doesn't sound like he's interested. it sounds like he is being a dick to you actually, if you are friends...

We aren't being harsh, we're just telling her like it is, so she doesn't get her hopes up too high.

i think just ask him directly but don't go chasing himi don't think girls should chase guys. if he's very shy to the extent that he can't tell what he feels then ignore him and try to make him jealous let's see what would he do... lolz