Do we have the conscious ability to choose who we desire to be in a relationship with, or are we pulled towards another by some inescapable drive that pushes us without our consent?

If you believe that our attraction to another is out of control, how would you describe this force? Is this what we would call destiny, other's God's will, or perhaps a simple biological need to reproduce?

You don't know anything about the mental and physical aspects of attraction, do you? =/

~Maggot

Psychology studies say that both men and women are attracted to youthfulness. It also states who you are attracted to is also heavily influenced by culture and society. Other than that, who and what traits you are exactly attracted to are variable. For example, I hate long hair on guys, where as I have a friend that thinks it is hte hottest thing ever.

I do believe in God, and I do believe he put my boyfriend in my life for a reason. I do know that there was an unexplainable connection.. if that was God, I do not know. I don't proclaim to know what God's plans are or what His thoughts are... I just live my life.

The law of attraction is false , if you belive in the law , you also Must belive in the law of karma,,Law of attraction-think of it and you will get it ,and also says if you go out and get what you want , you will get it,Ask yourself,If you didnt do the first part , and just did the second part, which is gettin off ya ass and getting what you wanted,Would the outcome be differnet?NO u would still have what you wanted,Law of karma,What does around,Comes around,What you get,is what you deseverd,If you didnt belive in karma, would you still get it?bad things happen , we are not perfect no matter how good we think we are.if you didnt apply any of these rules,u will still get the same outcome you want to get,or you prob might make a mistake,get up and do it again, and again , and again , untill you get it,Dont just think bout it,GET UP AND GO DO IT!!!

You are simply attracted by what you like, and what you like changes all the time depending on things like society, previous experience etc. You cant really explain it.

I think a lot of us aren't all that honest about what attracts us. Sure, we may be open about remaking on what movie star (Brad Pitt vs. Vin Diesel) is hot, but when it comes to admitting who we really want to get close with at home, most of us hide something.

Virtually all my gf's claim they want a nice guy, but not ONE of them actually wants to date any of the nice guys around, they seem to go with the jerks every time.

And I'll admit, I tend towards the bad boys myself. Is that soemthing natrual to women? Maybe, probably. It seems too consistent not to be.

I no girls who say they want to be with a nice guy, but they never are because the nice guys are usually shy and they never get to meet them. They end up just getting told what they want to hear by jerks.

Exactly. We're conditioned by our environment and our experiences.

*looks around for Maggot's wise explanations*

I gave up. They're too fucking retarded. It's not worth the effort.

~Maggot

butbut...

I'm sorry, but that's just the way it has to be. Can you ever forgive me?

~Maggot

I guess so, but I shall remain uninformed.