Lately, i've been feeling really depressed. You know the type of depression that's really easy to hide, but you still get the worst of it? Yeah. Reasons being because of my job, lack of money and the long-distance relationship i'm in. Don't get me wrong, i'm really happy being in the relationship, but being so far away and the thought that I may not see her for long periods of time in the future is a really hurtful strike to the heart. There's nothing I want more than to spend time with my girlfriend. Another big reason i'm feeling so depressed is my weight. I'm slowly, but surely gaining more weight. I'm getting a gut that's easy to hide now, but not so much when you're around your girlfriend. >_< The nearest (free) gym is 20 minutes away and I don't have the money for gas to go at least 2 times a week OR for a $40/mo gym. I'm being really pessimistic about the whole situation.

I've thought about suicide, but that would ultimately be the dumbest decision of my life (of anyone's life, at that). I have a great family, a wonderful girlfriend and school is content.

Any suggestions on what I should do about the long-distance and/or the weight problem?

If you're commited to losing the weight, you can do just as much at home as you could a gym.

Try jogging for a while every night, do a set of crunches (Get a lil' muscle ), eat a healthier diet etc etc.

Going on a jog for half an hour costs you nothing, and it gives you valuable time to clear things up in your head.

And as for the long distance thing, maybe you could try ways to see her more often...Maybe move closer to her or whatever. Idk.

Lol, thanks for the advice.

The moving thing is actually quite complicated. As much as I would like to, it's impossible , financially and because i'm still in High School. I'm planning on going to College down there next year, but that's the reason I'm depressed lately. Another year of waiting, when i've been waiting 2 already (we started dating Summer '06)

As for the jogging, I'm going to try that, starting this summer when I have more time. Again, thanks for the advice.

I think you should call your girlfriend and tell her what's wrong. I mean, you care for her a lot too, right? I think she has a right to know what's going on too. Heck, I'm sure she can give you some motivation too.

If you can go to a college near her that'd be good. Trust me when I say that one year will go by fast. Besides, it really says something if you can keep your relationship going for that long too.

As for the weight issue ... like DontBother said, try going jogging or walking to places. Maybe do some small exercises at home too like crunches or push ups too. It's something small you can do in the morning when you wake up.

You could always jog around the block, down the road, or at the nearest park. Invite a friend along with you. Having someone to talk to while doing something that gets your heart going, proven to reduce stress, will help out even more. As for the long distance relationship, talk to her about it. Let her know how you feel about her, and the distance between you two. It might be a case of having to wait longer to be together for long periods of time. Sometimes the greatest things in life are the things we have to wait for.

you don't need gym. try find something you enjoy, maybe swimming or football/soccer

You dont need a gym to stay in shape. Try situps, push ups, squats and stuff. Youtube has loads of fitness videos on it. You shouldn't think of something as extreme as suicide when something as trivial as your weight gain can easily be solved. Also, try and make sure you spend as little money as possible and save up every penny, you'd be suprised how quickly you gradually get money when you save up all your loose change.