Being a twin sucks, I would give anything to not be a twin.

Sometimes I feel like I am not even a complete person. Most people have no idea how it feels to always just be thought of as part of a set, never just you.

Being a twin puts a major strain on my social life. I don't want to be an asshole, but to be honest I have more friends than my brother does. My parents always make me feel incredibly guilty whenever I go hangout with my friends and I don't include my brother. I feel guilty when I go out and have fun while he just stays home. What am I supposed to do? On one hand I really don't want to make him feel bad by going out while stays home, on the other I don't think I should limit myself because of him.

I can't really have friends over at the house because he is usually there, and not all my friends are that good friends with my brother.

Bottom line is that most of the time I just feel cheated. Cheated that I was born as part of a set. It is very hard to put into words, but I just feel like I can never truly be an independent person.

I personally would like it so much to have a twin-sister because twins have a natural connection to each other ( something i read somewhere) so they relate more to each other and get to understand each other better than most normal brother and sisters do. I'd really like to be able to talk to someone who perfectly understands me because the person is like me...i've always thought tha being a twin was an incredibly great thing if there's no problem between the twins...

Anyway, your twin , doesn't he have ANY friends to stay with ? Not even ONE ? i mean, maybe he can hangout with the few friends he has,and if he reallly doesn't have any. Tell him how to more social. But the first thingyou have to do is tell your parents how you feel about it. You have to make them understand that ,even though you have the same apparence, you are and always will be two different persons.

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Being a twin doesn't mean you have to do everything together.
If your parents are making you feel guilty about this then ignore it.

Sure, your part of a set, that doesn't mean that you can't do your own thing, have your own friends and live your own life. You can't do everything with your twin.

If your parents are bugging you that much, why not spend at least one day a week, just you and your brother, go out somewhere, and see how different you really are.

Some people think that being a twin, you think the same, act the same, like the same things.
You don't. Your a whole different person and your parents should appreciate that.

Be an individual, like your supposed to be. Don't feel guilty because you brother prefers to be inside than out. Or that you like to hang out with your friends and he doesn't.
You are two different people, born at the similar times, you share some things but that doesn't mean you have to share everything.

Ok?
Hope this helps at least a little.

I think that's just a sibling to sibling thing. My friends mom does this to her. Anywhere she goes her sister has to tag a long, so she isn't home by herself. Just explain to your mom that you need to have your space from him for a few hours while you hang out with your buddies.

Huh. Well, my twin died.

But I'm sorry that you're parents are trying to help out your brother? If he doesn't have friends that's a really tough situation and honestly, it doesn't feel good to have to tag-a-long either. I'm sure he wishes he had his own set of friends.

Two of my friends are twins and they have no trouble getting on like what you have said.

My little brother and sister are twins.
But honestly, growing up, it was never that evident.

I'm not saying this to make you feel like what you're feeling isn't real.

But they were just so different. Each had different hobbies, and very different personalities. And neither one of them have ever mentioned any feeling like this. And my sister and I are very close, so I know she would have shared that with me.

Did your parents raise you like a set? Because my parents were always careful to note the individuality in both of my brother and sister.

Their names don't rhyme, and they were never, ever dressed the same.