Nothing seems to be going right at the moment.

Ive never had any really close friends... only who who i don't see much anymore as shes left school. I'm sick of being left out of everything in school, no one seems to want to be a good friend to me, don't get me wrong i don't sit on my own or anything, i just don't seem to be involved in anything or invited to do anything.

I'm going to university next year, but i need really high grades to get into Manchester, and if i don't get in i really don't know what im going to do with my life.

Ive met a really great guy, but im pushing him away. Im so possessive and i dont understand why. Ive been like this with every boyfriend and ive always lost them sooner or later. I just dont want it to happen again.

I just dont know what to do with myself generally
I feel so low all the time
Im so lonely

Id give anything just to feel like i had a set of great reliable friends, is that too much to ask?

I seem to be really emotional lately aswell. I cry for no reason at any time. This upsets my family, because i cant explain it, so they dont know how to help.

I used to self harm alot when i was younger, 14/15.
I dont do that anymore but i can see it happening again

Im stuck in a rut. I dont know who i am, where im going, or whos on my side.

thanks for reading.
I know its a long one.

x

This is a contradiction. It would make sense to push guys away if you were the *opposite* of possessive.

Possibly more contradictions. Well at least it ain't no mystery why you're still single.

Neal C.

Learn to take over yourself, By reading what you've written, i think your a lil shy and dont like taking part in group activities. First of all, Tell your parents.. secondly, make some friends, i know this may be a tough one for you, but you have to learn to do it, try and find someone who plays a same game or has same interests as you.. talk to them more and more, then im sure ur friend will involve u into their activities, and this way you'll be making new friends.

Im sure your a beautiful girl, so i dont think you would have any problems

Jesus is on ur side. Talk to him about it.

Do you have to be a bloody wise-ass on every thread?

She's asking for help, so you point out "the contradictions"?

You seem like you need a boy friend. You don't, it helps to be without the stress of a boy/girl for a while. Secondly, you can gain friends. Be more outgoing, and invite others places, for I'm sure there are others like you. You can re-create the relationship with the boy when you feel better. Just try to befriend those lonely people, the ones alone at school. Don't worry so much, you seem like you have the need to please everyone, and in doing that, you forget to make yourself happy.

try to join a club or something that way maybe you will meet someone that has the same intersts as you and as for the boyfriend you MAY be prosstive because of the fact you feel you don't have any friends you may feel like that is the only way to keep him. for school the best is all you CAN do so if you don't get into that one you can apply to more you don't have to go to college stright out of high school.

you wanna know what I think?

I think your a girol going through her teenage years like all others. it becomes scary, you loose focus, contradict yourself and dont know who you are. its because your no one. at least, not yet. your changing and becoming what you will be for the rest of your life.

look in the mirror. now is the time to decide.

what do you want to be? who do you want to be?


the efforts you partake in now will alter your life. choose carefully.

and know this; you do have great friends. you have never met them. and probably never will...but they are here. your reading the text written by one of them now. me. the other posters of advice.

we are real people just like you.

the fact that we communicate through a screen of pixels does not change the fact that WE ARE HERE.

and we care for you.

It's definitely the kind of situation where you need to reach out to people and show them who you are. Be confident in what you do. I think you shouldn't be afraid to get to know people and be friends with them. If you have a problem with it, you should do something about it. Get yourself out there and find people you have a lot in common with, it may not be easy but you won't know unless you've tried.

For the university next year, I think you should be focused in schoolwork and homework and such, but keep it balanced with your family, relationships, and your friends.

As for the boyfriend situation, learn to let loose. I can definitely sympathize about being so possessive, because in a way - I feel like that with my boyfriend, too. You know? I didn't understand what became of me, but then it hit me - I have trust issues, and you might have trust issues too. The best thing to do in a situation like this is to trust the person. I've learned to trust my boyfriend, because he trusts me. Trust is the building block of a good relationship. Don't lose him for that.

Please, just be happy. I know how you feel, really I do.

Crying helps, it does. Whenever I feel sad or angry, I always just sit down with myself and think and it involves crying. It's a lifelong process, what can I say?

The main point is just to be confident with yourself in whatever you're doing. Don't be afraid to make friends, don't be afraid to be the kind of girlfriend that trusts her boyfriend, don't be afraid to get good grades.

I hope this helped in some way.

Best of luck.