im depressed...im going to be 14 soon..and well ive never really been worried about looks much but i really am now...i have really curly and frizzy hair..so i straighten it everday..but i dont want to anymore because its harmful and is harming my hair..i told ppl at my school that my hair is naturally like that..which is a lie..so i dont want to confess my lie...i dont really have that many friends either and i dont want to lose them either...i want to gather enough courage to go places my normal self..and i want to be prouder of who i am and be more social...but how can i do this..even if i continue using the hair iron..it wont work too well..because mine isnt working too good anyway.. what do i do?

when will all these teen problems stop? im tired of going through this...and plus, im really nervous for school starting..different teachers...different students...everythings changing...its really freaking me out

You're depressed because you don't like your hair? And you were actually pathetic enough to lie about what it looks like naturally to your peers?

Holy shit. I'd be depressed if I was that stupid, too.

~Maggot

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Why cant you be understanding towards anyone?!
Not everybody actually feels confident with very curly hair, putting people down like that shoes how little understanding you are. I would be afraid of telling my friends truth if they were going to ridicule me. You so need to accept people and understand others feelings etc. Not everyone is like you when it comes to feeling alone.

bball123 - this is perfectly natural. I get this sometimes, but its always about my body or my looks. Your only 14 so its bound to be part of the hormonal things. Someone once told me that naturally curly hair is beautiful and believe it or not many people may actually love your hair, i would, theres not a great deal of it around. If they are true friends they would support what your going through, not give you ridicule about your hair. I know how that feels. I dont have curly hair so i wouldnt be able to give any proper advice, maybe the hairdresser would know what to do to get it how you want it?
I know it might be a pain, but i would much rather have curly hair that always stays in that style, rather than limp hair. You will gradully grow out of the deprssion though, pm me at anytime, maybe you just need a close friend thats there for you. And as i previously said on anothet thread (aswell as another member) if you tell yourself good things about yourself each day you may alter your thinking

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I can't be understanding towards pathetic, whiny emos like her. I can be perfectly understanding with rational human beings.I'm not saying she has to feel confident with it, but lying to people about what it's naturally like, and allowing herself to get depressed over something that trivial? As I said, pathetic.Oh noes?Really? Then you're a spineless coward, too.I don't need to do either.

~Maggot

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No im not a coward at all, i just dont know how to tell people truth sometimes because i dont want to be bullied over it.
Your probably a bully yourself. You call me things for no reason, people like you need to get a life.
Its funny how you cant define the words properly, e.g - being a coward is not that.

unless your a bully yourself, you will never understand that everyone is different, therefore may not be able to do things like you would. There is no right or wrong there at all, i was the same when i was at school and i guess you would have taken the piss out of me then too. How stupid!

Not saying i lied much to people, i said i would probably be afraid of being ridiculed when i was at school!

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As I said, coward.HA! You're delusional. Poor dear.I never attempted to "define" any word. I think what you were looking for is that I can't use words properly (oh, the irony). But not telling people the truth for fear of being bullied is cowardly.
Yes, you're right. It is stupid that I can "take the piss out of you".Because you're a spineless coward. Ridicule is nothing to fear or go out of your way to avoid, and anyone who does that is...well, pathetic and cowardly.

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No your the coward, idiotic and judgemental one. Take a look at how nasty you have been towards numerous member. cant imagine how you have been raised.
your idiotic! Not to mention reported.

your critism is pathetic, you cant describe what people are properly, your that judgemental.
People like you should be put in a bad depression to realize what its like.

If im a coward you should take a good look at what you are then, A B.U.L.L.Y!
your pretty sick to find it so funny to go bullying etc for no reason. You couldnt even answer me in a nicely manner over a pm. I see your pms is high.

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Really? What have I done that's cowardly?Just because you disagree, that doesn't mean I'm wrong.Oh, I do love when people are so JUDGMENTAL. Dear, I HAVE been depressed. In fact, I have numerous times, the most recent just two months ago. I spent most of my time crying, I didn't eat, didn't sleep, didn't even talk. I've been on four different depression medications in the past few years. I know damn well what it feels like to be depressed, so don't assume I don't.

This girl has no fucking CLUE what it feels like to be depressed.No, I'm just bluntly honest.I can live with that.
When did you PM me?

~Maggot

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Okay. My hair is naturally thick, frizzy, and curly/wavy. I use to staighten it everyday, too. (Sometimes I still do)
You got to learn to love your hair; It's not like everyone else's. And if you really can't do that, go to a hair stylist in your town and ask what can be done to make it easier to manage and still look great.


And about lying to your friends... either tell them the truth, or you could build upon the lie(which I don't want to suggest, but I am anyways) and say that you got a perm.

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You are very wrong to be so judgemental, Its nothing to do with a disagreement, see there you go, WRONG again.
You said you basically find it fun to slag people for no reason cause your sick in the head.

At least some of us arent so critical as you. Every thread that someone wants advice on you vertually use wording that probably upsets people. I gather you go around school critising people because your an absolute bully type.

I agree when you say over the lieing, but how you say it comes out rather mean. You said its pathetic that member is depressed because of her hair FFS just accept some people are depressed for all sort of things.
you need to develop a bit of understanding, not to mention the defining of the words you call people. E.g- as if im a coward, i help people, i support people, all you do is critise which makes you a NOT nice natured person.
when someome PM's you, you cant reply in a nice manner cause your a idiot.

sorry to mention it, but it is wrong to be mean to someone thats in depression, thats rather nasty.




Yeah i have been terribly depressed in the past actually.

so why critize people because they get depressed over their hair?????? if you were such an understanding person you would understand WHY people get depressed over their hair.

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btw theres a difference in disagagreeing than replying on here with this
Holy shit. I'd be depressed if I was that stupid, too.
How can you call that person stupid when you dont even know her!? theres your judgemental side.
maybe sit and think for a moment, and realize that not everyone can come out with truth sometimes, especially not if theyre being bullied. Anyone understanding would understand another person maybe be different than you in how they come out with things. Your difference is just mean. period.
Anyway i will leave it now...you obviously have a problem where you simply can understand people ,maybe you dont know how to understand people?

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Enough with the argueing and get back on topic please.

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