I agree. You should always try to be honest with her, because secretly resenting them and lashing out about it later is worse, leads to fights and whatnot.
But I also agree that I would be mad at you about it. I understand your reasons for concern, but she might not. She might just think you're being elitist or controlling.

He's not being controlling at all, actually?
He straight up told her that "Hey, if you do this, it's going to cause some complications." he has PREFERANCES that he made his girlfriend well aware of. That's not being controlling at all. Everyone needs to chill about him not liking pot.

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I agree If you don't like it tell her that all you can do . if some one want something they will do it event you don't like Maybe one day she will do it behind you. But you sounds she want it so badly and it could lead to open gate of drug .

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Yeah, I wanted some advice and I kinda got ripped to shreds. But yeah, thanks for the advice and not dragging my reputation down because of my opinion.

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False.
The reason it is seen as a gateway drug is because according to studies it was many drug-users first drug. This is simply because it is the easiest to find and most commonly used drug..

Weed is actually better for you than drinking, it doesn't impair your judgement as much.. and people are more likely to get addicted to alcohol than weed. What is it that you don't like about it, exactly?

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I'm sorry about that dude. Teenhut used to be a great place for this kind of stuff, but it's taken a turn.

As for my personal opinion about what you originally asked - I can relate to you 100% dude. I'm the same way. Drugs are a HUGE turn off for me personally. I think they're among the stupidest things someone can do. People disagree, that's fine. But if my girlfriend (whom I love VERY much) started doing it, I don't know if I could be with her. I don't have to worry about that , thankfully. So all I can say is that I think you were right to give her an ultimatum. If she tries it, it's not the end of the world, but if she starts doing it as a user, well.. It's your call. Any updates? Has she tried it?

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I'll leave the "Weed isn't really a drug" debate alone, because wether it is or isn't is beside the point.


He's not FORCING it on her. As her boyfriend, he has a right to tell her if she's doing something that he doesn't like. Can you honestly not see that?

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TELLING HER HE HAS A PROBLEM WITH IT ISN'T FORCING HER NOT TO. It's making her aware that what she's doing has the POTENTIAL to disrupt their relationship.

I think I've said this like three times now.

Just because YOU, David, do not have a problem with weed doesn't make you right or him right; it's a preference. I don't like drugs either. You claim meth & cocaine are bad, but a methhead / crackhead would disagree with you whole heartily.

If he doesn't like drugs, then fine. If his girlfriend wants to try drugs, then fine. He didn't sit her down and say "Look; I'm yout boyfriend and I'm telling you you're not trying pot." That would be controlling and unfair. Not him reminding her that he doesn't like it.

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Lolz. Calm down, boys. There is nothing wrong with telling her he doesn't approve of smoking weed, however.. the way he approached it was not the best. It came off as controlling and close-minded.

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Sooner or later, she's gonna do it with or without you. You like it or not.

So, all you can do is control her so she doesn't become an addict (which is likely)

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Being a MJ consumer, it really isn't that bad, its better than A LOT of other drugs.
You have the right to like her less if she does it, and her over reacting is a little over the top, but I was the same when I started. She'll calm down once she tries it. Plus the only addictive thing about pot is the actual feeling. Its similar to sex actually, addiction wise

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Dude, I'm not f***ing controlling her!! I said, "You can do it, but I'm not sure I'll think the same of you."

She can do whatever she wants! She's a person with free will like me! I gave her my opinion on the drug, and what I thought would happen if she tried it and what my worries were!

God, quit thinking you know me and my girlfriends relationship! We've been dating for almost a year, very much in love, and very happy. Quit saying I'm a controlling boyfriend!

I prefer to be honest than let it slowly bother me. I have a preference! And I made her aware of that!

Quit putting words in my mouth because you're doing a terrible job. I'm not FORCING HER!! I said she can, I just told what would happen if she did. And I know who she "really is". She's a beautiful person. I basically said, "Smoking pot is a major turn off for me, but I won't stop you."

Bear seemed to be one of the few people that saw that.

Quit thinking you know everything that happened because you don't.

And btw, she said it wasn't worth it to try it then. She said she might later, but for now she said it wasn't worth it. This wasn't my idea. She can still try it and she knows it.

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It's even better than tabaco.

I don't think it's such a big deal to try as long as you try and don't become addicted to it. That's why in some way it's better if you share the moment with her, just to make sure that she doesn't become an addicted. MJ is not addictive by itself.

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Hm? What do you mean? Weed isn't addictive.

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Technically, no. But you *could* become addicted. People have become addicted to "weirder" things. You can become addicted to the feeling.