Ok, I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and ever since I met him he's smoked hash. For 2 years I did too but stopped because I didn't want to get into anything harder than that (I tried speed but he had a TOTAL trip and it scared the shit out of me) Anyway, he's been promising and promising that he's going to quit and he NEVER does. He is totally addicted and I'm worried that his paranoia is going to get so out of control that it's going to drive us apart.
I'm tired of being lied to constantly, and however many times I ask him to stop, he just cant (or WONT in my view.)
He gets so upset when we talk about it I cant find it in my heart to do it often (he has ALOT of problems right now and I think he's using drugs as an escape from them.)
Hes in counseling but only goes when I go with him, and wont talk about the drug problem when I'm there.
I just don't know what to do, we've been through so much I don;t want to throw it all away now, but sometimes I seriously think about leaving him until he gets his act together, but I think that would just push him further into it.
I've cried so many times over this, he just wont accept the fact that he needs to change. I've already told him that I wont live with him if he's still smoking it but nothing works.
I don't want to see him ten year down the line as some junkie who shoots up in front of our own kids. It scares the shit out of me.
I just don;t know what to do
Sorry for this being so long
Any help or advice would REALLY be appreciated, I'm at such a loss
Thanks
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I get where you're coming from having watched people go through this but the best thing you can do is lay down the law and say if it doesn't stop (ie he sees his gp and gets advice/help) then you're gone. I assume you're a teen and thats why you're on these boards so I'll say this. A teen shouldn't have to carry this amount of stuff. Someday you'll wake up and be 30 and realise you've lost your youth helping someone that didn't want to change at all and in turn has dragged u down with them. so I say bring it to a close for a while.Hope that helps

^^^Yep hes right, cuz i tried it also about two years ago, but luckily for me i had a lot of help from friends. And all that stuff u just said u do, or did, which ever one. and this is just me saying this. but it does not make you a better person, or more cool. Nope, it just makes u less of a person then anything, so my advise. is if someone does not want your help. then so be it. obviously, if he was a true bf, then he would listen to u and try to put an end to the drugs. Trust me. I had some real close friends right before i tried the stuff, and then lost some friends. And i hated the way i felt. but i was only on them for a month. But its all thanx to the ones who stood beside me. I'm real sorry he wont listen to u. All i can say to ya, is if its hurting u to much, then stop. before it destroys u aswell. Hope my advise helps ya.

Leave him. I know it sounds hard. But if you give him the altimatum of being with you or doing drugs, he'll choose. And he will choose the one he wants more. Believe me. And if its not you, then concider yourself lucky. 99.9% He will keep doing it in secret if he tells you has stopped. So if you make him choose, and its drugs, then you can better yourself. If its you, make him prove it. Don't give into him so easy. Show him you're serious and you mean it. If he really cares for you he'll see it that way. If not, then it wasn't ment to be.

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^^^ totally right, thats what i was trying to say, didn't come out that way though.

hash isnt addictive.
maybe he wants to do it?

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Hash isn't addictive?? Are you kidding me with that? It most certainly is. I know numerous people who cannot live without the stuff. They cannot function. It is also the worst drug by far as it is the beginner drug and people will always move on to try harder stuff. It is a stepping stone and is certainly worse than heroin (in the respect that heroin kills people off quickly whereas hash slowly over many years ruins peoples minds and slowly runs down people around them and as I said is pretty much ALWAYS the stepping stone for teens to harder stuff, without it I don't think people would start on coke and e, wel not many of them). Its the plague of society. In addition to this it can cause mental problems, psychosis and numerous other problems. Most notably, recently, there was the case of one young man who smoked alot of it and shortly after hacked two of his friends to death. One of the most common misconceptions is that hash is not addictive. Lets dispel that right now, it most certainly is and can be quite dangerous.

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA you make me laugh.

hash or any type of cannabis IS NOT addictive.
it DOES NOT cause mental problems and psycosis, it brings out whats already there.

ive smoked weed since i was ten, i have never touched any other drug.

please do reaserch before you go around saying cannabis is addictive.

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Ok.
But lets see.
She doesn't want him to do it?
Here is a list of why;

-Kills brians cells (for the love of god dont tell me it doesnt)
-It makes you lose memory
-Loss of deep thinking for a while
-If they plan on having kids, he could mess that up.
-It's S T U P I D.

There is no reason for drugs.
If your reason is to get away from the real world.
Read a book.

Look, i would totally agree with the guys
i know its hard but think of it:
trying not to destroy him u destroy ur life!
u have spent three whole years in a relationship that only gives u pain crying and dissapointment.
if he really loved u he would have respected ur opinion!~~ thats for sure!
it would be a sacrifise for him, but now u are the one who is being sacrifised for a person who doesnt deserve it.
and after all, he is the one being wrong not u!
its hard to fight it but he could have done it
i think u should really think if u want to keep on losing ur life, being like this
i dont think it is worth it. it really isnt!!!!!!!!!

ok, u could give him another chance but tell him straight that u will leave him if u wont quit.
be careful in case he reacts in a dangerous way..
but anyway dont destroy ur life because of him!!!
u say he will be worse if u leave him,
dont u see that ur life is gettig worse and worse with him?

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it actually dosnt, it does play part in the death of brain cells but so many other daily activitys do too.

your stupid.
theres no reason for drugs? maybe the people who get saved daily by them will disagree.

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Don't call me stupid.
Unless you have cateracts, there is no reason for them.
Just because people like you, who are doing drugs just because, doesn't mean it makes them ok.

And don't tell me what it does and doesn't do.
You wait, later on down the road it'll hurt you.
How do I know?
My bestfriend smoked it for years.
And now he is still in trouble for it.
It keeps showing up positive on drug tests because he did so much.

Drugs are pointless.

AHAHAHAHA... again you show your stupidity.

your friend did it for years?
and he smoked too much, it still shows up in drug tests?

BULLSHIT.

thc stays in the bodys system for 90 hours.
after then, its gooone.

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No. It still shows up in his system.

Also, If im not attacking your intelligence, or more like lack of intelligence, why do you feel it it needed to talk about what you think mine is?
It has nothing to do with this.

Now I'm not going to sit here and argue with you over this girls Topic.
You have an issue.
PM me.

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Lynn

w/e.
everything i said is true.

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