She's a mother, I know everything she does is out of love and care. But where's the line? My mum doesn't let me do anything, even though I'm 18 years old, I've been put on a very short leash... what do I mean by that? I'm not really allowed to have a social life. Yeah, I go out and stuff, but I have to be home by 10pm... For some, it may not be that bad, but for me it is. Especially when all my friends, who are my age don't really have to be in. On top of that, around 9.30pm my mum starts texting me very abusive things... telling me that if I don't get home on time I'll regret it... Basically she threatens me, calls me nasty things etc. Me, my parents and my brother, we live abroad. All my friends and family are back in our country. I fly out every 2 months, I guess I prefer it there, I'm looked after properly, I'm surrounded with people who love and care. I'm really close to my mum's sisters (Age 26 and 34)... The younger one is like my sister and best friend in the same time, the older one is like my mum. But that's not the point. I miss them, and I guess my mum gets jealous of that, and sometimes tries to turn me against them.

I have a younger brother, he's 13. My mum always does everything to please him, he always needs to get everything his own way. If I do something to upset him, my mum will get angry with me. She starts swearing at me, threatening... she sometimes hits me. I get along with my dad, but he's barely at home.

Had to get it out. Do you think its bad that I sometimes hate on my mum and wish that I had a different one? One who would appreciate me? Hug me when I'm down and tells me she loves me? My mum hasn't said those words to me for ever, can't even remember the last time she did.

K.

It's not alright per say that you hate your mum, because no one should get to the point of feeling like that, but perhaps it is a bit understandable.

A short leash can be hard, especially as you get older. My mother is the same way in that aspect but my curfew is even earlier and I probably get to go out even less. You just have to sit down with her and prove that you're older and responsible enough to go out more or when you choose. And she probably only gets so overbearing because she really wants you safe.

It's good that you have a strong relationship with your aunts. Everyone needs an anchor and they seem like yours. Maybe your mother is jealous of that though, so try to let her know that you're not replacing her.

You can wish all you want for a different mum, but in the end you need to let her know that she's your mum and you care for her, even if you disagree some times and need time apart.

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Upon reading this, for the first paragraph I was thinking 'yeah yeah, typical fluctuating emotions, typical mother/teenager relationship', but actually if she really is hitting you and threatening you then this is quite serious.

I understand that it may be very difficult to confront her (although that is almost always the most effective way). Is there anyone else you could talk to? If it gets really bad maybe you should tell your dad about it...

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I see your point there, it is hard when these things will cause conflict between the family. But it's serious and you shouldn't stand for it. You're 18? Do what the fuck you want, go where you want, stay where you want. Get as much distance from this woman as possible and then one day she'll wake up and realise what she's missing.

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Not just staying out with friends, perhaps you could talk to them and say things are bad at home and maybe they'll let you stay at theirs sometimes? That's could make things a bit easier for you.

You're welcome. Good luck!

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They do let me stay at theirs, but my mum doesn't.

You are 18, if you don't like living with your mom move out.

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From experience I'd say if your mother crosses the line, it is alright to hate her, but the line isn't very thin. After years of my mother physically and mentally abusing me, I finally up and left to live with my dad at the age of 14. It's probably one of the best decisions I ever made, but each circumstance to its own. Just make sure that you don't do anything you'll regret.

Tough. You're 18

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Move out where? Should i purchase a cardboard box and live under a bridge? Except this crazy woman, my dad and my brother I have no one. I'm still in college, I don't have a job. There is no way I will be able to support myself. She takes my benefits. Even though we don't need them :/ I'm moving in with my auntie (my bestfriend) and her boyfriend (also my bestfriend) in July.

My parents are still together, don't know why though... My dad is on a leash too. Maybe it because my mother never had a pet. Messed up childhood? L O L

go to your friends' home and ans stay for some time ,and see what will come out..

Being in college is not an excuse for not having a job. I went to college full time, worked 40-60 hrs a week and I live on my own.

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