Hes gone forever

TehKayla · 12-07-2007, 10:48 AM

yeahhya deffinatleyy

xxXRawrHelloKittyxxX · 12-07-2007, 11:00 AM

I understand how painful death can be.

I have two best friend's that are dying from cancer, different types.

And one is like my brother. I was always suicidal for reasons that I could control. I just didn't like living. And sometimes he didn't either. He was there for me, still is, but it's hard to get him on the computer due to being weak and sick. So, sometimes when I feel sad, I have to remember all the positive stuff he told me through the days. It's hard because I sat here and count down the days. Counting down the hours and minutes until I hear some sort of bad news. It keeps me on pins and needles most of the time. He once told me, "You are strong because you aren't dead." I keep repeating that over and over in my mind.

I don't know what I would do without him. And just thinking about it makes me cry. Because he is still alive and it hurts knowing that he won't be there one day. I'm trying my best to understand that it's not fair and sometimes people come and go.

Nothing anyone can say will take away the hurt. That's the truth, I won't lie to you. You will have days where you can make it through okay and then there are going to be days where you just sit down and cry. Trust me, I'm doing through that now. But the best thing to do is think about how better off he is. How he isn't suffering anymore. And he can be pain free.

He wouldn't want you crying. Or to see you upset. He would want you to remember him and move on with your life. Because well, that's all you can do.

I'm sorry for the death. PM me if you need anything, sweets.

Newmember · 12-07-2007, 11:26 AM

Awwah, hun, that is really terrible to hear about that. I am really sorry.

Although it may not seem fair at the moment, it is important to remember that it was just 'his time to go'. You can't expect yourself to get over this so quickly. Don't be so hard on yourself, it has only been 3 weeks. There are about 6 different steps in the 'grieving' process, and it seems right now you may be in the 'depression' stage. That may not seem like a good thing, but it actually is. It means you are moving on past 'denial', and past 'anger'. Making progress is really important at times like these.

Some things that you can do to take your mind off of it would be to surround yourself with people who you love, and who love you. Being with friends and family could do wonders for this situation. No matter what it is you do, make sure that you realize that you have the right to take as long as you want to get over this ordeal. Don't put yourself down for feeling sad about the loss of your friend. It is completely normal.

Good luck, and I hope you feel better.

FreAk · 12-07-2007, 01:44 PM

Oh god,that is the worst thing I can imagine happening to anybody.You're actually doing very good,if it were me I'd still be in absolute depression XD.I don't want to sound pessimistic,but you can't expect to get over it completely.It will always hurt when you think about it.....the trick is to stop thinking about it ALL the time....not easy,eh?
I'm really sorry for your loss,and hope you'll get better

*hugs*

TheFunkyBunch · 12-07-2007, 02:46 PM

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Originally Posted by FreAk

Oh god,that is the worst thing I can imagine happening to anybody.You're actually doing very good,if it were me I'd still be in absolute depression XD.I don't want to sound pessimistic,but you can't expect to get over it completely.It will always hurt when you think about it.....the trick is to stop thinking about it ALL the time....not easy,eh?
I'm really sorry for your loss,and hope you'll get better

*hugs*

That's not being pessimistic, it's being honest. My cousin died 11 years ago from leukemia. I'm still fucked up over that.

Wizdew · 12-08-2007, 05:29 AM

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Originally Posted by nicole91

there are worse things

it just takes time, as time is a great healer, try and concentrate on something else for a while and become more involved with other friends

What she said, but dont get to caught up in other friends or w/e that you'll forget about him :\ Sorry for the lose. *hug*

hurt_and_confused · 07-02-2008, 01:36 AM

I totaly feel ur pain i lost my friend 2 yrs ago. He died on jan 17 in a HORRIBLE car wreck and the worst part is tht i saw the truck afterwards becuz it happened rite down the road from my house. I wonder all the time if im a bad person becuz there was 3 people n the car all together my best friend,my nieghbor,and his friend,my friend and the driver had their seatbelt on the other one didnt and the one tht didnt hav a seatbelt on lived and i sumtimes wished he had died instead of my friend and i blame him and i dnt speak to him now. I jus wonder if tht makes me a bad person?

Rhii · 07-02-2008, 01:37 AM

you have to think positive, and know that he's in a better place watching over you.

Common · 07-02-2008, 02:55 AM

i dont even want to imagine.
just think positive.

thenullandthevoid · 07-02-2008, 09:47 AM

e-Hug

xxSereneSiXstringxx · 07-03-2008, 02:36 PM

I am soo sorry. I can't imagine how hard that must be.

Try keeping yourself busy with other things. Of course grieving is something that everyone must do, but it might help to hang out with some of your other friends, seek support from them, and get professional help if needed.