Hes gone forever

TehKayla · 11-24-2007, 08:45 AM

Ok well i havent really talked about what happend about 3 weeks ago much i've just kept it in me which was probally a bad idea cuz now all my feelings are comming back

well my best guy friend who i was extreamly close to, like he ment the whole fucking world to me died in a car crash it seriously tore me apart and latley memories have been comming back and i can't help but think hes not gunna be there

arg any thoughts on how i cant maybe somewhat get over it a little more

Jarred · 11-24-2007, 08:48 AM

:eek:
oh god, i feel really sorry for you

i think you should talk to a counseler? or to someone who really matters in your life. its just going to take time. -hugs-

TehKayla · 11-24-2007, 08:51 AM

yeahh usually i'd go to him for these things but yeahh thanks

Jarred · 11-24-2007, 08:55 AM

you could talk to me, but im just random... sigh*

TehKayla · 11-24-2007, 08:56 AM

Tomski · 11-25-2007, 01:26 AM

Hey, I'm really sorry to hear about your loss

Like Jarred said earlier you could go and see a counciler so you can express these emotions and thoughts or try and find away that you could express youself healthily for example through art or a sport. Sorry I can't be of much help

Xx_SiErRa_xX · 11-25-2007, 01:40 AM

Holy crap......that's the worst thing in the world. I totally agree although you could also talk to your mom or dad.......shit man that's terrible..... *gives giant bear hug*

Nicole91 · 11-25-2007, 01:45 AM

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Originally Posted by Xx_SiErRa_xX

Holy crap......that's the worst thing in the world. I totally agree although you could also talk to your mom or dad.......shit man that's terrible..... *gives giant bear hug*

there are worse things

it just takes time, as time is a great healer, try and concentrate on something else for a while and become more involved with other friends

indifferentx5590 · 11-25-2007, 02:45 AM

its going to take a long time. i always worried that something like that would happen to me. and it scares me a lot to think about it.

i think you need to start hanging out with more people. i'm not saying replace your friend, you will never be able to do that. but find more people you can trust just as much as you trusted your guy friend. you need to have other people to lean on. you need to have other things to take your mind off your friend, at least for a little while.

you should also seek professional therapy. those people can work wonders if you really want to pursue going to them.

AngelWithDarkWings · 11-25-2007, 04:37 AM

Aww.. I'm really, really sorry that happened to you. Losing someone who you're close to is never an easy thing. Trust me, I know.

I felt like the world was out to get me and oh so lonely when I lost my friend, David. Just remember, he wouldn't want you living in pain from his death day after day. He'd want you to continue living.. not to forget, but to move on the best you can.

I'd suggest counseling, too. But only if you're comfortable and ready to talk fully about what happened, how you feel, ect. ect. Whatever you do, do not go into counseling unless you are ready, it'll just make matters worse if you aren't.

You're in my prayers and I'm here to talk if you ever need someone who understands what you're going through. -Hugs- Good luck.

Alex_Rosque · 11-25-2007, 07:14 AM

Letting it build up wont help, you need to talk to someone about it. Friends, Family etc. Time will heal your pain.

SweetLikeMySin · 11-25-2007, 08:23 AM

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Originally Posted by Alex_Rosque

Letting it build up wont help, you need to talk to someone about it. Friends, Family etc. Time will heal your pain.

Agreed.

You NEED to talk to someone about it, if you don't vent all the anger is going to get locked up inside of you and possible make you depressed. Try and think about all the good times the two of you had together, and maybe start a journal. Writing down my feelings sometimes helps me a lot because some things just can't be expressed easily when spoken aloud. Maybe you can meditate or take some time to reflect on your own life. Just remember - as long as you don't let it bring you down, it can only make you stronger.

Smile, live, laugh. Be thankful for your own life and be thankful that you had such a great friend.

Phuck Buddy · 11-25-2007, 11:36 PM

the whole thing takes time. maybe talk to people in a similar situation, or that might be a supprot group or something like that?

Kyle. · 11-25-2007, 11:48 PM

I'm sorry, that's really sad.
Try talking to more people, it'll get your mind off of him.

Shotgun-Hitman · 11-26-2007, 02:32 AM

I keep rephrasing this post, as not to upset you more. I'm extremely sad to hear about your friend, I can only imagine what grief you're enduring at the moment. As with the above people, I'd agree that you just talk to your parents, or a counsellor, or whichever you feel comfortable with.

Sorry if I'm not much help, but it's the best I can do right now.
Shotgun.