social life sucks(thanks to mom)

confuzed:\ · 11-28-2007, 07:24 AM

my mom is agoraphobic. basically she is afraid of people. she is legallly insane. it sucks cuz i cant have any friends over, and i cant go anywere. grrrrrr i just felt like telling everyone that

indifferentx5590 · 11-28-2007, 07:35 AM

if your mom is legally insane then you can't blame her for her problem.

sighhh · 11-28-2007, 07:37 AM

Oh that does suck. But it cant be too bad. Do you have a father who lives with you? Surely he can help. Also, could you come to an agreement where your mother stays in a certain part of the house, while your friends and you are in another? Also, could you jsut meet your friends at their places etc.

Are you sure there is no way around this problem?

indifferentx5590 · 11-28-2007, 07:40 AM

does you mom recieve any kind of help? if so, then you should be happy for her.

Phuck Buddy · 11-28-2007, 01:58 PM

tat sucks, but you do have to be on good terms with your mom...so maybe you can meet your friends at their place?

confuzed:\ · 11-28-2007, 05:18 PM

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Originally Posted by sighhh

Oh that does suck. But it cant be too bad. Do you have a father who lives with you? Surely he can help. Also, could you come to an agreement where your mother stays in a certain part of the house, while your friends and you are in another? Also, could you jsut meet your friends at their places etc.

Are you sure there is no way around this problem?

Ya my dad lives with me, and i tryed the whole agreement thing and it didnt work to well but it better thannothing i guess
thankyou for your advice.

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Originally Posted by indifferentx5590

if your mom is legally insane then you can't blame her for her problem.

i dont blame her for her problem, its not her fault. it just kinda sucks cuz i cant have a social life

x.VampireSaliva · 11-29-2007, 11:41 AM

It's not her fault if she has problems she didn't ask to have them it's not right to blame her and beat her down I'm sure she feels bad enough already.
Just go over to your friend's house. That way they don't have to meet your mom.

Romeo1522 · 11-30-2007, 09:43 AM

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Originally Posted by x.VampireSaliva

It's not her fault if she has problems she didn't ask to have them it's not right to blame her and beat her down I'm sure she feels bad enough already.
Just go over to your friend's house. That way they don't have to meet your mom.

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Originally Posted by confuzed:

my mom is agoraphobic. basically she is afraid of people. she is legallly insane. it sucks cuz i cant have any friends over, and i cant go anywere. grrrrrr i just felt like telling everyone that

Unfortunately, that's not an option either, according to them.

Can't your dad take you places? Would that work?

iNTaYkE · 11-30-2007, 03:04 PM

Go tell her that you need to go to a friends house to work on a group project.

corpsegrinder. · 12-04-2007, 12:35 PM

I know that's got to feel bad...
But you can't exactly put the blame on your mother for this.

fairy29 · 12-04-2007, 02:27 PM

well..what can i say..basically it's not her fault..why don't you try to make her feel better by making a discussion with her?
it would be great if she could visit an expert so as the matter will be solved!

Alex_Rosque · 12-04-2007, 03:19 PM

maybe you could oraganise a few days a week were for a couple of hours your dad takes her out and they spend some time togethor. Although you said she is scared of people so i spose it would need to be a quite place. That way for a few hours you can have friends around, but make sure they know about your mum so they understand.

Goodluck.

robb · 12-07-2007, 04:23 AM

I'm sure there's support groups for people in your situation. If you're in the UK you can join that whole young carers thing:
Young Carers - Home

~+ Bear +~ · 12-07-2007, 05:18 AM

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Originally Posted by x.VampireSaliva

It's not her fault if she has problems she didn't ask to have them it's not right to blame her and beat her down I'm sure she feels bad enough already.
Just go over to your friend's house. That way they don't have to meet your mom.

How did he beat her down?

Quill · 12-07-2007, 05:38 AM

he didn't "beat her down" but people seem to have some difficulty putting themselves in his situation. I'd be really depressed, even if i knew it wasn't my mums fault - just because somethings not that person's fault doesn't make it any less irritating.

i feel for you dude, but i'm not sure how to advise you.