This is about my best friend. You know how it is, how every pretty girl has their ugly friend. I'm that ugly friend. She's so pretty. She gets all the boys. I've had one boyfriend in my entire life. She's had about 15-16-ish. So she normally has a new boyfriend every two weeks. But now she started dating this one guy like three days after she met him to get over her ex. Now she's held this relationship for a grand total of 6 1/2 weeks. Woo-hoo. People used to joke and say we were conjoined at the hip because we were ALWAYS together. Now I haven't hung out with her outside of school since she started dating this guy. And everytime I text her or call her it's always "I'm hanging out with my boyfriend." ALL THE TIME. He stays over at her house from like the afternoon till midnight EVERY SINGLE DAY.
The last time that I called her, she didn't pick up, and she called me back and yelled at me saying "What the hell is so important that you needed to call me twice for?"
So I haven't bothered her since.
I know all my friends say I'm clingy. So I've tried to leave her alone. But it's getting ridiculous now. It's like nothing else matters to her except him. She's come over to my house twice this summer. The first time was to pick up her school stuff. Which she left in my car because she had to run off with her boyfriend and didn't have the common courtesy to wait for two minutes while I ran out to my car in the rain to get her stuff and bring it back. And she's like "Yeah. I'd totally stay later, but my boyfriend got off work early today so I gotta replan my day."
So she stayed for fifteen minutes at the most.
The second time was because she thought that he was cheating on her so she needed emotional support.
So it's like I can be her friend when she needs me, but I can't be her friend when I need her?
Then she said she was gonna come visit me at work today. So I was really excited... but of course she didn't show up. She said something about having to go shopping. With her boyfriend.
Her house used to be like my second home. And I got along with her family and all that... well I thought I did at least. Then I asked her if she wanted to sleep over at my house a month or so ago. She said that she couldn't. So I asked the next weekend. Still couldn't. So I asked the weekend after that. And finally said "You know it really sucks that your boyfriend can stay over till all hours of the night EVERY SINGLE NIGHT, but you can't hang out with your best friend for one freakin day." And she says "The reason I can't sleep over at your house is because my mom doesn't like you." I thought her mom and I got along pretty well? So I don't know if she's lying to me or not. But she's my friend... so I trust her.
Her boyfriend doesn't like me, so it kind of feels like sometimes she avoids me because she wants to make him happy. Like she's been acting a little more snobbish towards me lately. Not much... but enough to notice, ya know?

I know this is just going on and on forever. But it really upsets me.
I just miss my best friend. That's all.

I know how hard it can be to lose a friend, but if they are really getting to you, you should just stop being friends. This happened to me once with my best friend. I had known him since I was little. He stopped hanging out with me and started hanging out with people that didn't like me.

Eventually she will break up with the boy and will start hanging out with you.

Have you tried talking to her about whats going on and how you feel?

I totally did not need this right now. I have too many other things going on and I have contemplated suicide many times before, and made an attempt once.


To Sparrow- That's the thing though. Everytime she has a new boyfriend, her friends... including me... all get pushed aside. But it's never been to this extent before.
And when they break up, I'm always her shoulder to cry on.
I'm glad she has a boyfriend and she's "in love" and all that, but she doesn't seem to realize that she has other people in her life besides him.

your a piece of shit.

I'm pretty sure he was being sarcastic.

Anyway, If your friends gonna be a complete bitch to you, be one back.
Get some new friends.

I wouldn't suggest this, it will just widen the gap between you too.

If she's really your best friend and cares about your feelings, sit her down(without the boyfriend) and tell her how you feel. Tell her you miss her, and miss spending time together. Don't badmouth her boyfriend and you can tell her your angry but don't be a bitch about it.


Take this as an opportunity to get closer to some of your other friends. You could find out you have more in common with them than you thought.

I agree... You should get the others together and all have a nice chat about how she is making you feel left out.

Stay calm about it and try not to get yourself or anyone else mad.

Agreed.



And I'm sorry you're feeling this way, and that she's doing this.
I know a lot of girls who do the same thing. Talk to her about it. I know you've heard it, and I'm sure you've tried it.

Write a note. Or an email. Or something...

I hope this all works out for you, sweetie.
And remember, you're beautiful

This is nothing to be proud about nor to be envious of. Think of the quality of those relationships, if you can even call them that. Clearly she was dating garbage who only wanted to use her, or she was using them. Either way it amounts to a lot of bullshit. Be glad you're not part of that. I rather choose quality over quantity.

As for your friend. Talk to her without her boyfriend present. Pry her away if you have to, and lay everything out. Don't hold back. I'm not saying be a bitch or give attitude, but tell her exactly how you feel. Tell her you want your best friend back.

There will be two outcomes: She has an epiphany and sees the light, and realizes what she has done and you guys become the friends you used to be (or pretty close). The other is she says too bad, and you move on. In the first case, all is well. In the second, at least you know the truth, and you can move on. As already suggested, get to know some of your other friends. You never know what might come of it.

If outcome two is what happens, and she breaks up with him and is seeking a shoulder to cry on, don't give in. Seriously. She shouldn't burn bridges; you never know when you're going to need to cross them again.

This happened to me once, not the exact some, but I made a thread in Life Issues on Gaia and made a new email and sent just the link so she wouldn't know it was me, and the next time I saw her she asked if I wanted to do something that weekend

Don't suck up to her.
She'll only think your being clingy, if you're actually good friends, you'll get over it.

Tell her how you feel, and see what happens.

I'm not doubting the fact that she may be pretty, but that doesn't make you ugly at all honey.

That doesn't mean anything except she can't keep a boyfriend.

Can anyone say SLUT?


You make this girl out to be a god, she just sounds like a hoe.

She might be pretty but who wants a friend OR girlfriend like that, really?

You're a better person than she is for not succumbing to her....questionable lifestyle. really, I am 18 and have only dated one guy that ended in a failed relationship. My lack of experience and bad timing does not speak anything of my physical appearance nor does your similar situation speak anything negatively of yours. She honestly may just be easy and guys will flock to that :x