I'm having a lot of issues with my best friend. He and I have drifted really far apart, and I need some advice.

So, I've known him for about three years now, and I honestly love him to death. We had crushes on each other for awhile, but he started dating this girl our senior year and he and I stopped talking because she saw me as a threat. After they broke up, he and I got closer than ever, just I didn't have the same crush like feelings for him.

Since we've started college, I've gotten a little crazy. I drink, I smoke pot. Things like that. When I'd go down to his school to visit him, I'd usually do those things. He's never said anything about it, but I know he's not a fan of me smoking pot. But once again, he's never told me that he doesn't like me doing it when I come to visit him. NOTE: He lives with his older brother, and his older brother used to smoke and drinks a lot.

Anyways, he and I got into this huge fight tonight. My birthday was three days ago and he came home that day but completely didn't tell me. And I've missed him so much. All I've been doing is telling him how much I miss him and how much I want him to come home. He really is like... the one person in this world who can center me. When I found out that he was home on my birthday, hadn't bothered calling me to tell me that he was home, and was hanging out with our two other friends, I was so hurt. I asked him tonight why he and I weren't so close and he just told me that he's been really bitter and reclusive lately and hasn't wanted to talk to anyone but these two guys. I told him that that hurt me because he knows I consider him my best friend and I thought that he felt the same about me.

But apparently I'm wrong. He said that there are just things that he doesn't want to tell me and that he can be reclusive if he wants to. What do I do? Just accept that he's not going to tell me everything about him? I tell him everything about my life. I thought we were closer than this. But I don't know how to deal with it. I overreacted and now I don't know what to do/how to talk to him.

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If you feel you overreacted, apologize. He might be in a depressive-state right now, all I can say hun is if he doesn't want to talk about things, he shouldn't have to, I know that hurts since both of you were best friends, but ragging on him will only drift you two further apart.

He might just be going through a phase, that is one possibility, but the best thing to do is not rag on him for not feeling comfortable with talking to you, thats something he needs to grow into.

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