Hmmm my first post other then in the introduction area and its a problem.. hmm *wonders if thats bad* awww well.

Anywho, onto the troubles. My best friend has alot of problems, she goes through a fair bit in her day to day life so i'm always worried about her. But I'm not here to talk about alll her problems, though i'd to get some advice on how to help her with them all sometime, i'm just lookin for a lil help on one of them.
She recently told me that she'd been making herself throw up. She didn't say if it was often or anything but i'm begining to think it is. She was already majorly skinny so i'm really scared for her she also starves herself sometimes . Personally I think its all her boyfriends fault. He's a real jerk and he's bloody messed up. He has this obsession with stomachs and stomach growls. All he seems to care about is her stomach. its really sick... He even asks her not to eat to makes it growl. And he used to ask her to make herself throw up. He once asked her to go for a week without eating and she fainted she couldn't walk or anything. So now she thinks theres something wrong with her so shes doing this. She only weighs 51kg and shes tallish so she's definatly not fat. I'm trying to get her to stop but i dont think its working. I was begging her to eat today and she just wouldnt. I just don't know what to do Any advice?

she should get rid of that boyfriend immediately. I doubt if he cares about her girlfriend. Find a way to talk with her boyfriend, ask why he's doing such thing, he cant make her throw up...

I can't though she's convinced he loves her and that its not his fault. She thinks its all her fault .
I can't say one bad thing about him or she melts down and i don't want to risk pushing her over the edge because she gets pushed so easily. And if i talk to him he goes crying to her and makes her all upset. All he does is manipulate her. I don't think she'd be half as depressed as she is now if she wasn't with him.

Ahh that sucks. Maybe you can organize parties or I dont kno anything that you'll eat delicious things. And later you can convince her to eat healty foods. I dont know their relationships kinda weird..

Parties would be a great idea but we kinda can't do that cause her mum hardly ever lets her out and i'm not allowed to do anything likes that at the moment mums gone a bit strict.

yea I mean it can be something like a sleepover or jsut hanging out you know...

yeah i'll try that. thanks. hopefully she'll start eating a bit more then she does. she eats sometimes. just others she doesn't. and of course now shes throwing it up

Shouldn't you warn her mother? I mean, your best friend could end up in hospital on life support! She could seriously go anorexic. 51kg is okay but if she drops lower than 45kg I'd begin to seriously panic!
I remember a friend who moved away to Melbourne and she'd always been self conscious but as soon as she moved and all her friends were gone she went anorexic. It was so sad. You should prevent this from happening because it is just so hard to fight back from. It took her 2 years to get back to a healthy weight.

What giselle was saying is a good idea. Try and get her to eat at least something.

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Maybe she should see a doctor. If she doesnt want that. Talk to her parents, they should be aware of this too...
Cuz this is a serious problem, it goes till death..

I cant talk to her mother, shes a bitch. all she cares about is the family reputation. She doesn't help her at all. My friend askedher mum to get her a councillor once, because she hates the ones at school, and her mum said no because it would make others think she was a bad mother. My friend cuts as well and her mum found out and she didn't do anything. not a thing. All that'll happen if i tell her is she'll go off her head at my friend, which'll make her worse.

And she definatly wont see a doctor, as she doesn't want to stop or anything. I showed her some pictures of what'll happen to her today if she doesn't start eating and stuff, i hope that'll get some sense into her.

I'm thinking of tellling the school councillor that she sees (i eventually got her to go see the school one. took a long time tho) but all she will do is call her mum and that wont really help.

If her mom won't listen then tell your mom. Your friend needs serious help.

I cant turn to my mum. 1 she hates her, 2. she'll most likely just stop me from seeing her and 3. my mums a bit of a psycho. I don't know anyone else i could go to about her

The police? Because her mom doesn't seem to be a fit mother.

That'll wreck her life though ah anyway this might be the last time i reply as my mum just found out i was on this site and says i'm not allowed on it cause im not allowed to chat to people plus once my brother looks at it properly, which he will, he wont let me on cause theres that teen sexuality bit so i probably wont be on for awhile if at all

I'm not being sarcastic.

If it was my best friend i'd sit on her and make her eat.

xx