Hi!

My mother is drinking too much and I want somebody to talk to, it could be anybody who wants to but I would like to talk to people with the same experience. =)

My mother have been drinking for some years I think and everytime I hear people talking about those alcoholics out on the benches at the bussterminals, or when they talk about partying, or everytime I see glass of wine, I just feel bad, maybe not traumatic so I burst into tears but I get chocked and I get pictures in my head of what my mother did to me.

I'm going to a place whit the rest of my family to talk about it and get advice, and I'm so nervous for it.

But I feel so confused, my mother have been drinking since I was young, so young I didn't understand what was happening, but now I got it confirmed that my mother drinks too much, and that explains a lot of things and make me see things much more clear now.
When it started and maybe my mother was hurting my feelings a bit, and I got sad and I were angry at her, but then maybe I took it out on her or lashed out on other things, but if I knew it a lot earlier that she was drinking, maybe I would understand better?

It feels like I have done something wrong, that makes my mother more depressed, and then she drinks more, when I asked my father to help me with my homework and not my mother, she maybe felt a bit lonely, and then maybe that made her more depressed.

Well, maybe a bit long. =) But that is something I've wanted to say for a long time.
Are there any others on the forum?

There is normal to not understand at a young age like that I have a question though that would allow me to maybe help a little better Does your mom want to quit?

I truly believe that your mom needs someone right now. You need to help your mother get into shape. This is her life at stake and to be quite frank - if your mom doesn't quit drinking, she'll be digging her own grave.

Talk to your family to see if they will agree to help you with your mother. Get her into rehab.

Maybe, you should be easy on your mom. Catch her on one of her good days where she isn't wasted all the time and talk to her.

Christ'sChild:I don't know if my mother wants to quit, but I guess she wants to because I've heard other relatives talking to her about it and that it was getting better.

Armyforthebroken: Yeah, I will try to get her into rehab, but I don't really know how to talk with her, is it better I do it with the rest of my family when we are together?

My moms bf is an alcoholic just relapsed again. Ive lived with it for almost 10 years now. If you need someone to talk to hit me up on msn/aim.

If your family feels the same way as you do - you know, helping her and such - then I do highly suggest that you have a talk with her with your family right beside you. That way, it won't be as hard and your mom will be able to see how many people would be able to support her on-coming sobriety.

Sort of like an intervention.

I feel you hit the target with that one, that's one of many options you could do for someone who has drinking problems, and if your family feels the same way you do about your mother's drinking problems or friends even, it's a good way to help show how many people really care about her, and once she can admit to having the problem things could really go better from there on out.

Talk with your family. Try to get them together, and confront your Mom. She's got a problem, and it's best she hears it from people who love her. Tell her what you see when she drinks, how you feel, and tell her you care for her. Explain to her, along with your family, that you think she has a problem, needs help, but don't be agressive or mean about it. Try to get her into AA and rehab.

Thanks for all the answers, me and my family will go to that meeting first and then I think we should talk with her. =)

Good, I'm glad to hear that I hope everything works out well for you.

I know how you feel, my mother became an alcoholic after she turned 40, and I was pretty young and didn't understand it either. It went on for many years, but now she's better. I know how hard it feels, like you want to help them so bad but just can't seem to reach them. If you ever need to talk, I'm here for you.

My mom did try to do AA and things like that, but even then she just couldn't do it. What really saved my mom, was her going back to church. My family isn't church-going, but my mom started going to church again and the church had its own rehab-group which helped her tremendously, as well as finding her faith again. If AA and rehab just doesn't seem to work the best, maybe you should try church and see if they have a religious sort of rehab.

I don't know your mother, so I dunno whether it will work for her or not, but if it might work you should try.


I will also tell you that it is a long and arduous road, it will take a long time to heal the wounds, but when it's over it will be all worth it. The hardest part is holding everybody and everything together, but you just need to keep trying to pull her out of it.

I went through the same, it's only stopped recently.

The one thing you need to remember is never give up on supporting her through the problem because the minute you do that she'll put all the walls back up around her and sink straight into a bottle again.

xx

I know exactly how you feel. I have the same going on in my house, I know its difficult and if you're not in the situation you wouldn't understand but i know what your going through. especially everytime you get angry at her you get scared that it's going to make her go buy a drink but then you just get more angry at that thought and that leads to more shouting. its a never ending circle, with my mum she tries but then she gets put on pills that make it just as bad as when shes been drinking.

Its scary watching your mum's brain become fucked off alcohol right in front off you, in the long term as well as short term. but i hope your mum gets through alright, i hope mine will too

I get what you're going through. My dad is a really big alcoholic and he was a drug addict. I haven't seen him for a few years because the court ordered him to stay away from me and my siblings because he'd get really drunk and come home and flip out on all of us and end up hitting us if he was really mad. It's definently not a fun situation to be in; I hope that your mom can get help!