Please help me! My life is great I'm an only child so I get pretty much what I like and I'm grateful for that but my dad worries about everything. We always have arguments and I always get punished. Like the other day hes the admin of our computer and he has my MSN history. He totally freaked out after reading a conversation related to sex. I dont think he wants me grow up. I know he cares but hes overprotective. Its heaven when dad goes camping for the weekend. Mom lets me play out, she lets me talk to her about stuff I'd never say to dad, she sometimes takes me shopping and I love her. But I dont think I love dad anymore. I can understand that dad cares but mom cares for me, she keeps me safe to a certain extent but she lets me do things that 12 year olds should do. As for dad, mom says just wait a few years and everything will be fine but I need some tips to soften him up and let him go shopping without an adult so I can be cooler and go shopping on my birthday. I know decmber is ages away but it takes ages to get dad to agree to something.

sweety its normal for parents to do that stuff, they are worried about you, you are the most important thing in theyr lifes, soo its ovious that they care about you a lot, of course also its normal in parents to ve overprotective.
your dad isnt dealing with the idea that you are growing up, thats why he is so overprotected, you should have a conversation with him, alone, to talk about it, and about the conversationson msn, divalble the option of saving conversationts hystory

Are you an only child or firstborn? Parents can be incredibly overprotective of their first child. Your dads behavior is normal. I suggest talking to him about it.

Im an only child mom was ill and she was worried if id live or not. She told me she had historectemie or osmething like that so im there only child.

don't worry about it. tell your dad to loosen up a bit. tell him yes, you are still a kid, but you also need to learn to grow to be an adult. if he can't start trusting you now, when can he trust you? he is your dad, though, so it might be harder for him to relate with you and understand. you do love him and he does love you. it's just hard to see it sometimes. talk to him about having a little more freedom, and i'm sure he'll try to accept the change.

maybe ur father things u are still too young to do certain things.. try to understand him and be good so as to show him that he can trust u. if he trusts u he will let u do more things.. just give him time to realize that u are growing up, tell him that as u are growing u want to do more things and let him think of it. when he thinks about it, he will understand probably and try to please u as well.. but give him time, and try to understand that he worries for u cause he loves u. and always be punctual so as them not to lose their trust. things will get better if theres will from both sides

Get over it. =)
Honestly, I have no doubt in my mind that when I was twelve, my dad was stricter than yours. And there were times I hated it with a passion.
What? MSN? Nothing my dad would've let me come withing two miles of unless the person I was chatting with happened to be my grandma and he was hovering over my shoulder.

Thing is... I love him for that protection now!
It shows me he cared.
Whether you believe it or not, your dad knows more about you than any one of your friends or strangers do.
He loves you.

But here's the thing. Just give him time. Don't rebel. Do what he says and don't do what he tells you not to. The more you disobey him, the harder he'll pull on the reigns. He'll think you can't handle the rules he does give you, so he may think you'll need more.
Listen to him, and it shows him you're responsible and can be trusted.
But don't just do it to get your way. Do it because as a child, that's what you're supposed to do.
And think on it. Try to honestly think hard about your dad's side of things. If you were a parent, and had a daughter you loved more than anything, I'm sure you'd have rules set for her whether she liked them or not.

And the thing is, whether you believe it or not, your dad will lighten up.
Even if it takes a couple-few years. You need to prove he can trust you, but he will.
And then freedom is an incredible thing... but you have to be careful with it.
I found that once I hit my mid-teens, my dad was allowing things he never would have before, and because I didn't abuse those freedoms, by the time I was older yet, he pretty much allowed me to do whatever I wanted to a certain extent. And get this... I found out that a lot of what he was against to begin with... were things I knew were wrong for me by that point and wanted to stay away from anyway.

In a wrap... be patient, obey him, think about it, try to understand him, and do what you know is right even if it's hard.
You won't regret that in the long run.
Good luck! =)