Okay, here's the thing;
usually I swim every day. But in August, I didn't because we had the month off. I gained 4 pounds but I didn't worry about it that much, because I assumed I would lose it in a few weeks, when I started swimming again.
I have this friend in my team, and I dunno she was like real mean to me. When I put my clothes back on she was like 'Man, you fatty!' and she was even calling me a redhead, but I'm not even a bit redheared, not that I would bother, it's just a haircolour.
But it bothers me, I was a bit hurt by her calling me a fatty, because I was feeling a bit uncomfortable because I gained weight and she calling me fat wasn't helping that much.
So what should I do, should I talk to her or just get over myself?

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if shes your friend, you should tell her that what she said hurt you. really, she shouldnt have been mean at all if shes really your friend. try talking to her about it but dont let what she said get you down. if she continues to say rude things to you then dont associate yourself with her anymore. find better friends. be confident in yourself and dont let rude comments bring you down.

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First off; she has no right to call you "fatty". Its just mean and she'll know that it will make you feel upset. Ask yourself - Was there really any need for her to call you it? There wasn't, it was just plain mean, don't you think? "friends" don't do that to you, surely, a friend would support you and not even bring up the weight gained?

I'd ignore her completely. There's nothing wrong with gaining a little weight, it will drop off you anyway - what with starting swimming again. Don't even give it a second thought. Talk to her if you want - let her know it upset you and give her an oppotunity to apologise? If she doesn't.. can you really call her a "friend"?

Keep up the swimming, supporting you all the way!


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SimpleGirl*

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Well i certainly don't think you are the one over reacting. She is probably just jealous that you have a nice figure. By the way 4 pounds doesn't matter you should only worry if it was 4 stone in a month. It is healthy to have curves rather than be anorexic. Just ignore her, at the end of the day she is only going to say those kind of things to make you feel bad so she can feel better. Just ignore her and show her how pointless her insults really are.

Hey there Phenomenon,

I want to begin by saying that you know who you are and what you're capable of, so don't listen to whatever remarks that comes out from this girl. She's a mean person and you shouldn't have to worry about her at all. I can honestly tell you right now that I have come across a lot of people in my life that would only spend their time seeing me fail; that's what this girl wants to do. She wants to get inside your head and feed on your insecurity just to see you go down. One way to handle it is if you just rise above it and be the better person. Remember: You know who you are and what you're capable of.

Another way to handle it is to talk to her and see why she's attacking you. There must be a motive to why she acts such a way towards you, just be upfront about it.

Also, you gained four pounds which is nothing if you're a competitive swimmer. Once you start swimming, those four pounds will be muscle. As long as you're healthy, she has no reason to call you fat.

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Just tell her you'd rather be a fatsack than have a shiv in your eye. Then, when she asks what that's supposed to mean, stick a shiv in her eye. Later, tell people that she's a total whore.

Well, Normally when someone calls you "Fatty" they don't really mean it im my opinion, there just messin, But it does matter when they start saying stuff like "You fat piece 'a shit." and other offensive stuff, But before matters get worse, I suggest you talk to her about it, i know it can be a lil embarrasing, but look:

Do it this way, IF she calls you again, say "Stop calling me that haha", turn it as a joke, then she wont take it offensively (Most people do i dont know why when you say "Stop it" and stuff), and you wont be embarrased..

The best way to get around things is saying them in a Jokey way, but meaning them, KNOWING the other person knows what you mean.

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She's prolly fat

She? Which She? Her friend?



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SimpleGirl*

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Four pounds isnt going to really do anything to your figure. Was she messing around? or being serious?

I find that very immature. I don't really have any advice on this subject.

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Hey,

First of all, that's really cool that you swim/swam everyday you must be really motivated.

Four pounds isn't anything to be worried about, you could burn it off swimming in a week that's for sure.

Ignore her silly comments but i suggest talking to her and telling her it made you feel a little uncomfortable, like that next time she'll keep her mouth closed.

Happy swimming!

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Doughnut*

Im sure, if she's your friend she wasnt saying it to hurt you.