On top of the bad day i had, i got into a fight with my sister about my alcaholic mother. My sister, who has Schitzo-Effective Disorder (she hears voices, is socially inept, and has bipolar disorder) decided to take it upon herself to call authorities if her drinking and hitting habbit get worse. She doesnt care enough to understand what is at stake here: our pets, house and our jobs.

on top of that, my best friend, the closest friend i ever had, and probably will have, just prooved to me that when she's 18 and has no one to supervise her, she'll make herself bleed to death, if she doesnt starve herself to death first. and she told me that if her dog wasnt around, then she would kill herself. i try to help her, but she rejects it. i even got her set up with a councelor, and she blantantly told me that she will lie to them because the shrink will send her away to a mental institution if she didnt. which isnt true.

she makes it so hard to be friends with her, and some times i think it would be easier to just not be friends with her. when i see cuts on her arm or watch her not eat, it hurts me. it hurts incredibly bad. she is farther down than i dont think anyone could have thought possible. and i feel so helpless. this.... sucks.....

As a friend, you've done everything in your power to help her.

Sometimes, you just gotta let them do what they want to do, let them experience life the way they choose to. I've had this experience before, I tried so hard to help friends, but in the end they just push me away. You feel guilty because you've failed to help them as a friend, but know this, you have done more than enough. You gave them suggestions, got them a counsellor, and in the end they still won't listen. Before you help them, you have to make sure they WANT to be helped.

If they don't, all you can do is just sit in the sidelines and wait until their ready and be there for them.

i hope for the best.

One word of advice, you don't have to put up with your friends bullshit.

I spent ten years of my life helping my old best friend. I pushed my problems aside to comfort her, to help her and to make sure that she was doing okay. She was waiting around for a guy that didn't want her and it made me mad. She kept asking for advice and I gave it to her. But it wasn't want she wanted to hear. I got sick of having to deal with her nagging and crying. Sooner or later, I understood that I couldn't put up with her shit anymore. I would do anything to piss her just to show her what it felt like when she did what she did to me. I told her that if she didn't love me enough then she needed to hit the road and move on.

You can't help someone that doesn't want help. They need to learn for theirself. Let them do what they want even if you know it's not right.

your friend just wants attention.

You ass hole. Can you not see that there is an actual problem here?! Not every person who self harms is just seeking attention! Get over it, you just say these things to get attention yourself.

i think your best friend needs to get institutionalized if you really think she's gonna make herself bleed to death. if she's lying to the counselor, than the counselor is having no affect on her.

not sure what to say about the mom/sister situation