Okay, have u ever felt so bad about something, that no one could help. I mean they tried, but it just woundent work for u, So instead of them still trying and not giving up on u, they leave u. Not talk to u, ???? I have. And it sucks, I tried my hardest to get out of the frame of mind i was in. But nothing my friend said helped, I mean it did, but it went away. I mean i'm not feeling that way now, But am just asking.

I think when you feel bad about something, you can't really feel better about something until you know why you feel bad about it/know how it can be resolved. That or until you're ready to feel better about the whole situation. But that's just how it is for me.

well it did get resolved, but i still felt bad about it. ????and to this day i'm still confused about it. Kinda a relationship that went bad ya know,??? Even tho i'm over the whole situation, its still there in me., But i don't let it show, i keep it all inside, to myself.

Ahhh, well maybe no matter how much your friends console you and try to cheer you up you think that somewhere along the line you went wrong in your relationship. You think maybe if you didn't do a something a certain way, your relationship wouldn't have gone so sour and it drives you insane.

Yea i know i fucked it up this time, The last time we actually talked was last year. But i don't know. I think she decited her help to me was not going to help, so she left. I get upset about it every time i think about it. I HATE This. I don't hate her at all. I just wish she would try to talk to me again. So i could try to make things write with her. I know i'll never b able to b her bf again. But just want her friendship now. Is that to much to ask for, I know i screwed up. But there was so much on my mind, i never really got to tell her everything that was going on inside me. I got close. but there was still a lot she doesent know. If i could just b able to talk to her for a minute, that would b great., I'd tell her what i wanted to tell her before she stopped talking to me, Then leave her alone for ever. God this is making me sad now.

I know she doesnt want me as a friend, that part is obviose. So the frind thing is out. Sorry.

I'm sorry things didn't work out, but at least you know not to repeat those same mistakes (if you'd call them that) again in your next relationship.

Yea. i wont repeat them again, I was a total jerk. And probably wont b in another one for a while. I don't really see the point in it right now. May b one day. But right now i don't want to jump into another one, May b an online one. But in terms of a real one on one, I'm good. Hey,,,thnax for ur help on this.

Anytime m'friend. :]

listen. what happened in the past, is no longer here. what may happen in the future, is not here. right now you have the choice to be happy. you can not change what you did, but you can make a conscience decision to make things better right now. if there are no options available right now to make things better, then know that when the moment when u can make things better comes to you, you will. the best thing you can do is to simply live right now. be happy. choose to be happy. right now.


dont brood on "what will i do when that moment comes" because you have no way of knowing what the situations will be when that moment comes. at that moment you will know what to do. as for now. just be happy.

Wow!!! Thats really great advise. Thanx. Ur right i don't know what will happen. Gosh,,,, I really am not happy, and need to b happy. Thanx i'll try.

it can be difficult. i was the same way u are. it takes a long time sometimes, and somedays will be better then others. when u have a bad day, remember that "this isjust a bad day. i'm going to embrace it and learn from it what i can" then move on.

another thing that can help. be aware of your breathing. that means, focus on nothing but your breathing. close your eyes if that will help. deep breathes, of any speed. slower = relaxing, faster = you will experience a moment when time does not exist and a vast expance of space that is in your head. its a wild thing. i only just experience the faster one last week. i was standing in a push up stance , with my hands on the edge of a table as if i was abotu to do some push ups, then decided to breathe. deep semi fast (not like really fast where it will tire you out, just faster then normal.) then my mind just opened up. i felt like i was going to faint but then i controled it and realized it was just space. it was wild. completely energized me tho

Do you mean when you drive your friends away from you because you're not listening to anything they're saying? I think I know what you mean.

Okay, yes,, I tried to listen, but to tell u the truth, I didn't want to hear what she was trying to get through to me, I wanted to b hers right then, and forever. But now, i'll never talk to her again, I spent my last year half now beating myself up over this, and now i want out. I'm tired of letting this always ruin my day. I'm never looking back,,,

i was in your exact situation, almost. from what i see in here. girl is friends, seems like she has feelings for me, my feelings for her are known by all, everyone around us believes she has feelings for me, when i couldnt take not being with her romanticly anymore, i made ym move, it was already too late, so she turned me down, moved to college, and i didnt talk to her for almost a year. most days i would think about her and get depressed. since i found out about what i told you, i have used it and i am much happier now. and in the begining of doing what i outlined for you, it was still difficult. but about a month or 2 went by and i found that when i did think of her, i would think "man its been a while since i last thoguht about her..." which makes it easier when i see her, or tlak to her. now its as if we are simply freinds and nothing more. i feel as if, if she were to say "i am so in love with you, i always have been" i would prolly say somehting along the lines of , "i'm sorry to hear that. i hope you can learn to live with out me in that way".