So yesterday I had my two best friends spend the night, and it was really fun. We talked and everything, played games, listened to music, the usual. But about halfway through the night my brother came into the kitchen while my friends and I were getting food. He comes in and stares me at me with tears rolling down his face and he starts to laugh. Yes, laugh. And he looks at my friends who were completely confused and he kept laughing while tears were going down his face.

Afterwards he walked out of the room and I told my friends I would be right back and followed my brother. He looks at me and pulls me down *He's a lot shorter than I am since he's 10 and I'm 17* and he goes "The reason I was laughing was because it's the way I deal with things when I'm upset or afraid to show my feelings." He then starts crying again and he continues, "The reason I'm crying is because I see you with your friends and you're happy, and I want the same. But I don't have any friends and everyone thinks I'm weird at school." =( It really crushed me. I tried to give him my best advice and all, but I don't think it really helped him.

I told him that he should try to be a little more outgoing and talk to people, even if it's hard and he's shy. Try to find someone who lives nearby who he could go to and hang out with.

He told me that every friend he gets uses him or moves away, which again, I was lost for advice. I told him that he just has to hold out then until the next school year, because every school year is a new beginning. New faces, new teachers, new everything. But I don't think he really believed me. *Sigh* Seeing my brother like that really bums me out. =( He's my brother and I wish he could be happy, but I myself can't do much to help. x_x

This isn't so much a plea for advice or anything, I guess it's more just to vent. But I'll take advice still that I could give to him, because I really think at his age he needs to have some friends and enjoying his life. >_< Thanks in advance to anyone who gives advice. <3

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ugghhh that is pretty painful. Just tell him to hold out for the best, because it will come--even if that's later rather than sooner, and in the meantime at least he's got you!

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Aw, that's sad. =( I think you did the right thing by talking to your brother about it and not just shoving him to the side like most siblings would do. It may not seem like much but just by you giving him your attention while your friends were over mean a lot because many seventeen year olds wouldn't even give their ten year old brother the time of day. Did you allow him to hang out with you and your friends for a bit? That might have been a nice thing to do, even though he's only ten years old and everything. If not, it's okay as well.

Perhaps you can try talking to him and suggest ways that he can make new friends. I know your brother is only ten but is he involved with anything in school or elsewhere? Maybe getting him onto a sports team or as a member of a youth program, it might help him make more friends. You could also try talking to your parents about it and see if they have any suggestions regarding all of this. All in all, I think you handled the situation appropriately. Just make sure that you try your best to be there for him if he ever needs you as it seems like he trusts you a lot.

Take care.

I talk to my brother about this stuff a lot. He has friends, but hes the really nice kid that isn't mean at all so kids take advantage of him. He has a good amount of close friends but the dicks in his class pick on him. I know why, its cuz my mom makes him dress like a weirdo. She makes him pull his pants up so frickin high and makes him tuck in his shirt.

The only good thing i guess is that he is going off to boarding school next year. But what i do is tell him how things work in school, and what to do with the kids, and he listens.

So i mean like he isn't good at sports so i practice with him and help him get better. If he needed to lose weight, i would do it with him, he doesn't cuz hes skinny. But i mean like if some kid talks shit to him, i tell him exactly what he should do. My brother as much as we fight, is my best friend. We talk about girls, though he is 8 but he understand it all anyways. I kinda talk about it at a different level but he still understands the 1-10 rating system for girls which i don't think i knew at 8, and i didn't tell him about it either.

Just talk to him, tell him what he needs to do to improve his self image. Do it with him, make it work for him. Include him with what you do. Just make him feel better about himself, and other will seem him better when he is more confident. Maybe go for a run everyday, and work out a little. Do stuff together, show him what you think is cool.

I mean i didn't have a ton of friends during middle school, but then freshman year i was friends with everyone. And during elementry school i had friends.

Hmm very sad this about your brother
Hmm of course you do the right to tell him that he must be more talktive person and outgoing.. but if he is shy you can do another one think...
has someone of your friends little sister or brother?if has then say to come to your house many times with the sister\brother to meet your brother
with this way he sure find friend ;]

*sigh*
Young kids are extremely cruel to each other aren't they.....easily corrupted mind, mixed with "instinct to survive" and put others down so they could come out on top...

He should know that this is just temporary and he will have much more friends when he grows older, just like you. Tell him that you had the same problems (lie to him if you need to about that) so he knows that he is normal and not weird in anyway. He needs that kind of reassurance right now. Take him with you more if you can, show him how to talk to people and that it is not "weird" to start conversations with new friends. He will see and learn and feel more secure and respect you more and have more confidence in himself that he is hanging out with "older kids" which will help him out a lot.....a lot. Guide him through this whole "communicating with others" thing, some kids learn by observing.

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I did let him hang out with my friends and I for a bit, until he fell asleep on my bed while watching T.V. XD He drooled on my pillow. =(

Getting him into groups is going to be semi-tough, at least right now. There aren't many school groups here, and the ones that are around don't really stay open during the winter, or require you to be older. *Highschool groups.*

I think getting in shape with him would be a good idea. Of course, I have to see if he would want to do that. It would take a lot of concentration for him, but I think it could happen, and he'd get a way better self image, which would go a long way.

Anyways, thanks for the help guys, I really appreciate it. <3

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That's pretty heart-breaking but I guess the best thing you can do atm is just look out for your little brother when he needs you.

Encourage him & if you like something he says/does tell him he was cool - it seems lame but trust me he'll appreciate it more than you think.

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that's sad. i dont have any good advice for you, but i did know a kid, everyone thought he was weird and no one wanted to be around him except one or two friends, me included, and one day, someone put him over the edge and he kicked the kid's ass. he still dosn't have too many friends, but no one has made fun of him since

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this... almost made me shed a tear :'(

i would be nice if you were one of his friends too, yes

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If he looks anything like you, no advice can help him.

awww

i know how your brother feels..
i feel like that also..

Tell him its hard right now but one day he will find that person or those group of friends he has always been looking for...

in my case..i know for a fact that i am more mature than my peers in highschool so...i dont really bother. i mean yea there are a few people who are complete jerks/idiots but they kind of...shunned me out of their group like everyone else has :/...i just go to school, get my education, and leave.

i dont really know if this would help him but hey its worth a try right?

I used to be a lot like your brother. I was the social outcast in elementary school. But rememeber, elementary and high school are completely different worlds. I didn't really have any friends in elementary school, but now, in High School, I'm, pretty much. Mr. Popularity.

When I was younger, I focused more on doing things by myself anyway. Actually, I'm still very self-dependent. Try to get him involved in some different activities; build him some hobbies. I remember I'd occasionally get upset over this idea too.

Honestly, it's not in the human function to have "friends" at the age of ten. You're still competing over who has the coolest toys and who is the best in video games. What perverts the minds of today's society is the television. Disney, Nickelodeon and whatnot which shows the average kid/teenager as having a caste of good willed people as their friends, while never showing the realities of what it's like to be a kid.

This, in turn, makes kids think they need a best friend, a girl friend, a dog, a clique and thirty parental adults to be normal. When they don't have these things, they feel as though they're deprived, when, in reality, they're just normal kids.

Like I said, try to get him involved in something that will occupy his time and mind. This will shift his focus from being lonely to something productive.

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