Hi im new here and I just wanted to get something off my chest. I have noticed my sister has started to change a bit. I mean i know people will get this sort of thing within families but im getting quite upset. Its just the little things such as frowning at me for example when i ask why did u do this?, she frowns and her tone of voice changes. I dont understand and I always ask myself have i done something wrong. I tell my mum and she says u should ask her. Talk about mood swings! I have hardly had a laugh and a joke with her in ages and this is obviously bothers me since we're really close. Im not saying that i wnt her to laugh with me every sec of the day but u no its not how it used to be. Another thing she's only happy when she's talkin to me about her friends, its like she doesnt want to know me any more. I hope im not sounding pathetic coz i don't wanna come across that way!

What should I do?
Thanks

She's growing up and going through a lot of hormonal changes.
It might make you sad that your growing apart, but your not really.
You could give her space, let her have her own life and just try to be positive and happy around her.
Or. you can talk to her and explain that the lack of closeness between the two of you is upsetting you.
But, make sure not to make allowances for her. If she's downright mean to you, you need to explain that its upsetting you.

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The best thing to do when something someone is doing is upsetting you is let them know. Let your sister know she's been acting in a way that you don't particularly like, and it bothers you because you consider yourself close with her. Also mention you are there for her if she ever needs to vent.
It is true that she's going through changes. As people grow older, they start to rebel and become more independent. Life isn't as happy-go-lucky anymore, and mood swings tend to come from a combination of hormone level changes and life events. If you can understand this, it will be easier to get through it.

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Mate, I know it's hard because you were so close for all those years but at the end of the day she is growing up now and it's time for you to detatch yourself from her a little. She still loves you just the same, but she's starting to get her own life together now, and you are a part of it...but you just need to remember that you're not the only part of it.

And yes, she probably is having mood swings - that is also a part of growing up. She'll be evil sometimes and there will be no significant reason, or she'll be really nice and sisterly and you will be able to have a laugh and a joke with her.

You need to come to terms with the fact that you will not always be THAT close. Yeah she'll always be your sister and yeah she'll always love you...but she's getting her own life together now...you have to accept that. She's growing up into a woman and she has a lot on her mind, so there is nothing you can do but accept it and see what happens...it won't always be this bad mate.

I went through the same thing. When I was very young, my sister looked after me and we loved each other perfectly well, but when I grew up a bit, and she got into her teens, she turned into the bleedin' devil, I tell ya! She had evil moments and plenty of things got smashed in her time, and I was often on the recieving end of it.

She's twenty three now, she has her own life, her own house, family, job etc...and she's never been better. She's cheerful, lived her life, and we've never been closer Just give her her own space and let her grow up.
Hope this helped.

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This is how my cousin acts when we get off work or she is in an argument with her boyfriend. I usually don't talk to her the rest of the night and she comes around.

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i agree w/ everyone =)

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You don't sound pathetic at all, sweet heart.
To me it sounds like she is just being a teenager. When y'all get a bit older, I am sure things will be a bit more normal between y'all just, but as of now she is going to be wrapped up in her newfound social life. I would suggest talking to her about how you feel, but don't get discouraged if she doesn't comply.

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if i may quote some blink-182
" well I geuss this growing up "
she's growing up, she'll change, both mentally and physically, so she's bound to be a mass of raging hormones, but after the changes are done hopefully you should be able to resume lots of laughing and joking with your sis

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the same here and she really gets on my nervs cuz i dont dare to ask or to say smth to her cuz she's gonna shout at me, woow she's angry all the time.. i cant understand her
i always talk quietly to her but she always angry
it's not ur fault right?
and sometimes it seems like she doesnt luv me or better like she luv her friends and the young sister more than me...idk why
i think not to care 2 much about this cuz i dont care too...it's her business, who cares ....sorry if ive talked rudely but when i talk about this i really get angry, srry....hope u've understood me

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