Mom question.

Stjowa · 07-06-2009, 12:58 PM

I was 3 when my mom and dad got a divorce too. They are still friends it was my dad was kind of fishy with other girls even though he didnt do anything he did lie though. Caused fighting and yeh. But that is probably the reason why though! I hope you and your mother can get along too. It sucks though!!!

GOODLUCK!! man

DareToDream · 07-06-2009, 12:58 PM

This is coming together now. Ok. Well there are many things about my mom that I just hate. She is the type of person to complain and yell constantly. But despite that, I try to keep an ok relationship with her to the best of my ability and considering the circumstances. I'd encourage you to just make a little effort. It doesn't have to be substantial. But she needs to know you care. What if she passed away one day and she didn't know you even cared?
But definitely continue to be on good terms with your step dad.

stephaknee · 07-06-2009, 03:05 PM

There is nothing wrong,
sometmes you can just talk to the other parent about more things.
I know I talk to my mom alot more about things, then my dad

Saradactyl · 07-06-2009, 03:19 PM

There is nothing wrong with it, I mean, you are still a teenager. But if you want to improve your relationship just try and talk to her a bit more. Greet her when you get home, ask her about her day and tell her about yours.

I Promise · 07-06-2009, 03:48 PM

I am not going to give advice on building a relationship with your mum, because firstly, you are the type of person who would already know how to do that. And secondly, I don't think you really want to at this moment in time. So, I won't tell you what you already know

But - in answer to your question, yes it's normal. I know quite a few of my outer friends who hardly speak with their mother, and they mainly deal with their dads. It's not that they hate them, or overly despise them, just they feel that they have nothing in common, or they don't understand them, so they keep away. So, you're not alone.

Another point, well, you're right in a way about feeling obligated. You probably feel that you should out of a sense of gratitude to her for bringing you into this world. And I do understand that. But, right now, you don't feel you both relate, so you don't bother.

If you get the urge to build some bridges, I am sure you know what to do. If there's anything I can help with, let me know. But you know, this might change over time anyway. As you get older, you may realise that your mum isn't as bad as you thought, not that she's a bad mum, but you know what I mean. Maybe it's just because at the moment, you have a lot going on, and it's hard to define those lines clearly. But when you're a little older, perhaps the issue will be more important to you, and you might want to improve things.

As a final note, how do you think she feels about it? Do you think she's ok with how things are now, or do you ever feel she wants things to be more open?

ThatGuyBrett · 07-06-2009, 07:41 PM

I have this same problem but its because my mom is a loon