Does it make sense?

Izzie :) · 08-07-2009, 08:08 PM

If you did something you really love, and it makes you happy and proud of it, then someone (a best mate) tells you it pisses them off when you do it, and makes a big deal about wanting you to stop, then gets angry that you have said no. Is it wrong to want to keep doing it? or should I stop right away? even though it's not a bad thing, it's actually a good thing..? (posting advice on the forum on a persons thread)

Bosh Bash Bish · 08-07-2009, 08:11 PM

No, you should never change who you are for anyone. And if you stopped something you liked doing that would be changing you. So no. They're obviously not a good mate.
A good mate would be happy for you with whatever you do.

I Promise · 08-07-2009, 08:15 PM

I always believe that if you do something you love, and it's causing nobody any harm, then you should never stop just because it upsets or annoys that person. You should always do what you think is right in life, and never bow to pressure of any kind. Because what you might enjoy and find fun might be boring or annoying to someone else.

I would suggest you sit and talk with this friend, and try and find out where the part is she finds annoying. There may be a reason she feels the way she does, and so, you need to establish what that reason is. You may have misunderstood what she'ss not happy about, and by listening to her concerns, she might have a point about something. But you won't know if you don't talk to each other.

It seems what you're doing is very credible, wanting to help someone. But it's not worth losing a best friend over. So, you need to try and smooth it over by finding out what's upsetting her. I am sure she won't be against you wanting to help someone else

eva43 · 08-07-2009, 08:20 PM

If it makes you happy, go for it. As long as you're not doing anything wrong or doing anything to harm anybody, there is no reason for you to stop it.

ames · 08-08-2009, 01:08 AM

What is it that you did/do that pisses your best mate off?

Izzie :) · 08-08-2009, 01:49 AM

I said, but if It wasn't clear ill re-say

I post advice on her threads.

Jenna · 08-08-2009, 01:59 AM

Izzie, you and LauraJane are great and I like reading your posts, but the two of you really need to start talking to each other about stuff instead of talking at each other on this forum.

If it all it is that she's upset about is you posting advice to her, then stop. If it's something that you feel you really need to tell her, then just tell her in person. and that goes same for her too, i've seen at least one thread of hers that was directly in response to you not doing something she wanted you to do. There's PLENTY of people on here that you can post advice to that aren't your best friend, and this isn't a big enough deal to start a fight with her over.

Izzie :) · 08-08-2009, 03:23 AM

Huh, Its not with LauraJane

Tenris · 08-08-2009, 07:21 PM

Hi

Whoever this person is, they are making it clear that your advice is unwelcome in their thread. For whatever reason this may be, she has her own motives. You may be passionate about giving advice to people who are in need, as am I, but I know not to give my advice where it isn't wanted.

You should by no means stop giving advice to other people, only this one person who seems to not want it.

dexxus · 08-11-2009, 12:07 PM

You are right Tenris...
Wait for this person to ask for any advice ..
before giving any...

Tenris · 08-11-2009, 07:06 PM

Exactly. There is no problem with giving advice to people, remember that...but you can only give it to those who want it from you, otherwise they will only resent you for it.

Good luck