i know this is kind of stupid but...

I have this close guy friend of mine. He used to like me in the beginning of the year but he has since gotten over me so we're just friends now.

Earlier this year it was kind of a traditional for us to go on college trips hosted by this youth program. We would sit next to each other on the bus and enjoy each others company all throughout the trip.

The program is hosting another trip next month. The problem is, he wants to invite his crush.

I know that if she goes along, he would be focusing most of his attention on her. And I'd feel...replaced.

Don't get me wrong, I don't have romantic feelings for him. I'd feel the same way if he was a girl.

I feel as if I would come off as a b***h if I tell him that I wouldn't like it if he invited her, or he might think I have feelings for him or something.

And if I don't and she comes along...well you know.

So what do you think guys, should I just come clean and explain it to him, or should I suck it up and let him spend time with his crush?

Thanks!

OMG! i felt the EXACT same way a while ago! There was thing guy, who i was friends with and i knew he really liked me, but i didnt like him and nothing really happened. Then he started chasing after another girl after a few months. I felt sort of put out too, since i no longer had his attention all the time. And I went through thinking that i liked him too! So, its not just you

I'd just say to him in a jokey way, like : 'Hey, dont i normally sit by you on the coach? :P'
Like in a cheeky way? not serious? And see what he says.
Theres nothing to do if he's moved on, unless you do like him back! You should think hard what you say to hiim in a serious way though, dont want him to think that your playing him along, or anything.

Good luck

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Well, there's three options you are presented with:

A.) Talk to him about it. If you really think you'd feel like you'd be uncomfortable with his crush there with you guys, then confront him about it and let him know what you feel. Friends have to be honest with each other to maintain a healthy level of trust and communication. He'll probably think the worst, naturally, but as long as you point out the fact that you don't have feelings for him and that you'll just feel uncomfortable having her there, then it's good.

B.) Not do anything about it, which probably won't make everyone happy. However, if she does end up tagging along, then he's given this opportunity to get to know his crush better by spending time with her.

C.) Invite someone that you might possibly have a crush on or another close friend just to level things out. If you don't think you'll be comfortable if his crush is present and you don't feel like speaking up about it, then you can definitely ask someone that you're interested in to come along or another close friend.

Those are the three main options that I'm seeing right now, but you don't necessarily have to choose any one of them unless you see that it's something you can do.

And as far as not wanting to be replaced goes, I don't think that'll be a big issue. You're his friend, his close friend from what I'm observing, and I'm sure that he won't put you on the back burner for his crush. If your friendship with his is a close one, then you have nothing to worry about. If you're still worrying about being replaced if his crush does come, let him know that you're worrying about that. Like stated before, communicate with him! I'm positive that he'll listen to what you have to say and he'll be proactive about it.

Good luck!

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id let him know.

if he never knows you will always wonder wut if?

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