Well, ill first start off by saying my parents have been togather for about 25 years and I guess they have been not too shabby. About a year and a half ago from now, my father started drinking again, he has not touched a beer ever since my parents decided to have me. I learned that he was an alcoholic and couldnt control it. But he stopped. Then suddenly out of the blue, this many years later he picks it up again, so my parents have been pretty much fighting on and off for a full year now, and the past 5 months have beeen the rockiest.

They have both went to counsling, and after their sessions they acted like theyve discovered their love for the first time, and my dad swears hes stopped drinking. Well after the counsling was done, he picks it up again, my parents had a huge fight and my mother left for a few days. They went back to counsling after that, and seemed like they were on a good track again, they have decided to allow drinking in the household, instead of sneaking around. So whats wrong with having a few beers at home? Nothing at all.

So this week they blast out fighting again, I cant understand why. Until my father comes home and starts telling me that mom is accusing him of having an affair.

I was shocked. I wouldve never thought it would go this far. Before, he has lied about drinking on several occasions, but eventually confessed it at counsling. My mom still thinks I dont know what their fighting is about this time, and id like to keep it that way.

But right now ive come to a point where i hear both sides saying " the other one has got problems" I dont know what to do.

Plus im heartbroken because they have been doing so well, and acting so great towards each other.

Thanks for taking the time to read this
-CyaThere

I totally hear you.
My dad used to drink, but he went through rough detox and has since stopped. My parents have had their share of arguments, but the only thing that really helped me was to talk to one (or both) of them about it.

Tell them how you feel. I know you really want to keep it secret that you know what's going on, but you should really talk about it.

Seeing your parents fight all the time is definitely not fun. My parents used to fight all the time (they still do sometimes, but it's not as bad) and it made me and my sister upset to have them yelling. The most you CAN do is to be there for each of them, comfort them, or let them know how you feel. Tell them that seeing them fight is hurting you, that it's really wearing you thin to see them upset with each other all the time.

Of course sometimes YOU'VE got to be the parent and sit them down, make 'em talk about it until they've come to a resolution. Try locking them in their room (take everything sharp, pointy or anything with the potential to be used as a projectile out first lol) and making them sit down and have a heart to heart about everything...

Best of luck!