Ok I have a problem.

As most of you probably know, I'm 13. But I think my parents are being to controlling.

First of all I am a higher year at school than most people my age are. This is because my Birthday is in January. Which means that my parents put me in the year above. This has meant that nearly everyone in my year is 14 when I am still 13. Being surrounded by people that are older than me I act older than I am. Yet my parents dont understand this. They see my age instead of who I am.

First of all I'm never allowed to go out. When my mates call me asking me to go into town I have to lie to them. My parents say that I'm to young to go out with my friends. Yet everyone in my year does. And people in the years below are allowed to go out. A couple of months ago I got invited to go to a few house parties. The whole year practically was there. But yet I had to lie because my parents wouldnt let me go. Now people dont even bother inviting me anywhere because I can't go. This really sucks. Loads of people now think I'm a reject that sits at home all day and never speaks to anyone. But its really because my parents won't let me go out. They still expect me to be dropped off at other peoples houses and picked up, I'm not 8, doing that just isn't normal anymore. Me not being able to go out has totally wrecked everyone's opinion of me.

Then my parents shout at me for sitting inside all day and doing nothing. Whenever I ask them what there is to do. They either suggest a bunch chores that I shouldnt do, I help more than my dad or my brother do. Or they suggest that I go out in the garden and play. They simply dont understand that doing that doesnt intrest me anymore. I have tried telling them but they dont listen to me.

One thing I dont understand is how strict they are about me having my phone or my ipod touch. They take them down at 9pm everynight (unless they forget). Now I can understand why they would wantto do this on Weekdays, and that doesnt bother me. The problem is that my parents take my phone and iPod downstairs on the weekends and during the holidays. I dont understand why they do that during those times.

My final rant is about punishments. My parents are lunatics. They dont use phsyical punishment. But if I do something wrong the go mental. One time a got 200 words from my school for forgetting homework. My dad screamed at me for an hour, then he took all my stuff away for a month. My phone, iPod, computer, PS3, everything. Every tiny little thing I do wrong my parents go crazy at me and tell me what a terrible son I am and how I should be more like my brother. But they also make fun of me. I now have virtually no confidence in myself. My social life is fucked.

Any advice would be wonderful.
Thanks.

well, confront them about it. Make sure they understand that everyone else does it, and say that you will be careful etc..

And you are only 13, they are looking out for you. Although the punishment thing seems a bit ridiculous. You will have to talk to them about all this.

Thanks for the advice. I will try say something to them, not sure how they will respond.

Atleast your parents care, It might be a bit harsh but they do, seriously. Ever since my parents divorced when I was 13 (16 now) There was never a sense of family for me again.

My dad got re-married and I feel like a stranger when I go around to his. My sister lives with my dad while I live with my mum. My sister literally has not talked to me in weeks. My mums dedicated to her job and Im pretty sure shes seeing someone new.

So you see your situation is not so bad, compared to mine.

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1. Confront your parents about your homosexuality
2. Run away from home.
3. ??????????
4. Profit!

wtf...

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Do something to prove to them you aren't a little kid anymore. If you do that then they might let up on you a little bit. Not saying they will, but you never know.

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Hah. I'm nearly 17 and I still get treated that way.
Either do what you want or listen. But that's only if they don't listen to your reason.
You're still living in their house, so you can either listen to them or test your boundaries.

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maybe you should show them an edited version of your first post, it was quite emotional and it would be hard to remember all your points you've made in a conversation with them..

good luck

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^ I agree

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You know, bringing up a child is a hard job, and there is very thin limit between care and insanity. And your parents just don't see this limit. Maybe they take so much care of you, because teenagers at your age face with a teenage crisis, that's why this age is considered to be the most dangerous. You know, I just had proved to my parents that I have my own brain *_* When they tried to limit my freedom, I did all in my own way almost always. I wasn't always right, when I didn't listen to my parents, but complete limiting can't finish good. It can lead to mental problems. Your parents must go to the psychologist or to courses for parents. Are you only one child? Because when a couple has only one child, they just has no experience in bringing up. Trie to prove to your parents that you are an indepentent person.

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a bunch of kids go to bad parties and smoke crack i dont know lol they want to protect u from that stuff?