Truthfully I have NO idea where to start there's so much going on so feel free to ask questions if you need any information to come up with a answer.

I have a sister and we have a big age difference she's about 36 years old and thinks I will never know better. Ever since our parents and I moved into her house she really knocked discipline into me and I understand now. We finally have enough money to move out and into a apartment not to far from her house. Problems starting building up.

Usually I get so upset by the fact that I have to let my sister belittle me like I'm a child. She already has kids and I wonder if she's just used to being so strict I just hate the fact that she has to treat me like I'm her child I just wish she was a sister for once.

When I was little she moved out and married and settled and everything else. We never really got the chance to spend time together.

Everything she thinks about me is all wrong she thinks I'm shy but really I just don't know what to talk about with her because I seem to always make her mad and I can't talk "normally with her".

Basically am I wrong to let her treat me like this or should I let her because she's an adult and treat her like one?

I hope it's not confusing I'm a horrible writer!

You should sit down with her and talk to her about it. Let her know how she's making you feel. Maybe she doesn't even realize how her words and actions are affecting you. If you don't say anything, she's going to continue doing it. Let her know that you need her to be a sister and not a mom to you. If you talk to her about it maturely, you'll have a better chance of getting the outcome you want. Good luck.

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In her eyes, you're a child. Legally, you're a child. She's an adult. She has more experience than you, she has been through much more. In the end you're a child, and her treating you as such isn't unheard of. What you have to realize is that the age difference means something. It's difficult for her to treat you an adult when you're not even of legal age and she's 36 with children. Parents always treat their children as children because to them they're children compared to them. While she's not your mother, she's old enough and in a point in her life where she could just as well be your mother. Perhaps if you had a conversation with her and explained your situation to her something would change, but her behavior isn't anything out of the ordinary. She has a lot of responsibilities and is dealing with a lot in her life, so don't be too hard on her if she's not treating you exactly as you'd like to be treated. If it were me, I'd prove to her that I'm a responsible person who deserves to be talked to like an equal. To her you're not an equal, because you're not. Either talk to her or prove to her that you are to change the situation.

you say that you have trouble talking with her right? well how about this, pick a place you feel comfortable, like a coffee shop, or your favourite restaurant, take her there and say that we need to talk sister to sister about some things. once you break thee ice with talking about normal stuff like thee weekend or whats on tv, try easing your way into thee conversation about you and her's relationship and how she treats you.

if thee way she's treating you really bothers you that much, then tell her. not in a mean way though, say something like "i know you want to protect me, and i know that you're older, wiser, and more experienced than me, but i think that thee way you are treating me like a child, is just kind of difficult for me because i want to be myself around you, and i can't be because of that."

she's your big sister, and she's going to treat you like a little kid, its what big sisters do! thats what my sister does but get your voice out, let it be heard by her, and even if nothing changes, at least you know she heard your point of view on thee way she treats you

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