Alright well this is going to be a long post.


This all started my freshman year when I moved back from my dads house. My mom was really nice for the first couple weeks and then she changed completely being bipolar and having random anger attacks and flipping out on me. It was my first year back since 7th grade with my mom and she expected me to be the same when i was in 6th grade, close to her like i was but i'm not anymore. Before 6th grade she put me through hell and when i moved back in 9th grade.

last year it was bad. During the summer time i got kicked out for 2 weeks and we fought daily. She always brings up im just like my dad and i'm a piece of sh*t. I'm sick of her treating me like crap and using her hypocritical remarks. She tells me to do all these things and then when it comes around to her doing them she avoids them and puts them off.

My mom thinks its not tiring being a kid in highschool. Sure for most it isn't, but i'm a lacrosse and football player. I have a 5 days a week lifting program on the off season for 2 hours and school to keep up with. During football season i'm at practice til 7pm and lacrosse til 6 then lift some more. I'm trying to make football my future and shes trying to ruin it. She thinks i should be home and doing things aruond the house.

My mom got mad at me today for going to work and not telling her. Shes mad i didn't text her on my phone i pay for because she shut my other one off when she was threatening to kick me out again. I wont give her my number because its her fault she shut my phone off soo time to teach her a lesson to learn how to try and get in touch with me if my phones "off ".

During football season its not too bad and during the summer when im getting ready but she thinks i don't need to be getting ready right after and thinks she can tell me not to lift and miss it for things not needed. Shes trying to get us to go to counseling again but I don't need it, i just need her to leave me alone when she has these little temper tantrums. My grandpa had a "meeting" with me with my mom and he said even if shes completely wrong I should listen to her, but i'm a leader and very good at spotting flaws in many people who are taking the role of a leader. A mom for instances is a leader of her kids and she takes no responsibilities for her acts and has to be the biggest hypocrite out there.

I'm 16 right now turning 17 in june, taking my SAT's march, trying to get my permit on my own and hopefully a license but sadly its 750$ for everything all together and i have to pay for it myself. She acts like a real mom around my coach, friends, and people who she knows are in my life. I wish she'd show her true sself around them. My sister is a druggy and my brother is a little punk I seem to be the only one in this family going somewhere my mom sits there and dwells on her past wishing she could of done things different I know it because shes lost me as a son. I know longer need things from her. Although i have a roof under my head and a bed, internet and food. everything else that is mine i pay for like thisn computer i'm on. Shes upset she can't control me with taking things away and now that i have commitments in my life she can't ground me from them because these things contribute to my future.


My coach is always there for me and after lifting i'll stay at school do homework and go home eventually and most of the time i'm here i'm with my girlfrined because other then that my mom is out of control. She complains about herself and how shes dieing and we're soo poor but shes ungrateful we have a house Im grateful shes keeping it over our heads thats alot but the way she disrespects me..as soon as i'm 18 that fall enrollment i'm gone and in college playing football, if not i'm in the marines

I hope she knows the way shes treating me is pushing me away and i'm already almost gone and theres nothing she can do to stop it. Sorry mom i'm just like my dad apparently he left you and i'll do the same i guess i know why he did. ALthough hes not there for me or her or anyone and was a deadbeat to my mom i respected her even when she used to abuse me for fun when she was drunk

Now i'm all grown up and see right from wrong.


I really am not sure how much longer I can stay in this house I'm staying in my town for as long as possible i need to get through one more football season so i can get my scholarships for college. I'm trying to control my stress and i guess venting on here will help. I no longer resort to punching walls or breaking things, I learned to let me anger out on the other football team. My family is my team they love and care for me if somethings wrong they'll be right there for me no questions ask. My bestfriend and his dad would take me in if she went crazy and i had no other choice

I just don't know how to keep her from threatening to kick me out. Its illegal i know but she'll call the cops and say i did something out of control and in that case the parents win...Big football player against small mom she'll win of course I hate that soo i'm afraid it'll ruin my future if i keep walking away. its what my coach told me to do but its not working anymore



Sorry its soo long had to vent

-Tmac

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Hello dear Anthony

I hope someday you will understand that family is the greatest thing we have.

Comparing it too football and your coach, just won't work.

You should control your feelings. You don't need to create conflicts.

You stated multiple times that you are all grown up, well, then it's your duty to behave appropriately. Make sacrifices and practice self-control.

You can move away from your family, no problem. But you shouldn't burn the bridge.

Twenty or thirty years from now, what would you value more - quite family reunion or memories of your college football success??

sorry, if i am wrong

But the thing is the things she says to me just shows she has no family values. Shes only a real mom when people are around to see. Other then that then i'm a worthless, low life just like my father that doesnt deserve to be around here and that I need to do what ever she says and do what ever she does. I grew up my whole life the man of my house with no dad and she treats me like shit. She treats all of us like shit. She drove my sister out and into a bad habit, after my sister graduated my mom made her pay her back for things like the car, and clothes my mom would give as gifts. Then she started charging her rent when she lost a job and the when my sister had 3 jobs my mom kicked her out. Finally my sister got into this bad habit and it was too late and now shes a druggy. I feel my mom pushed her into because of the way she treated her kicking her out countless times and now she thinks i'm next but if i get kicked out after my senior year I have friends(family) on my football too there for me. You can't understand what a football team means to you into you play it

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That's all sorts of jacked up. I was watching Case 39 today. And it was showing about how parents are abusive of there kids. And it made me think of how much my parents meant to me, and how they really wern't that bad. Now what your mom is doing is totally wrong, not in the abusive way, but what she's driving you to do. I feel that you should be allowed to do things like you want to, and that sports is something that should really matter.

And I know what you mean by the whole getting kicked out before 18 thing. My friends mom called the cops and told them he was crazy, and he got put into a crazy home for 2 months. Even though he has no problems at all.

I'm not really sure how to help you with this, though I think going to the counselor, and tell him what you feel is going on with your mom, and trying to get family counseling will help you.

I don't like family counseling shes the fakest person around anyone...If we start arguing i'll raise my voice because she usually does but in the room she'll start to cry and be nice and quiet and say things like see what i go through?? Shes by far one of the worst mothers she used to abuse us as children til my dad when he was there for a little called DSS and got us put into his custody til he decided to leave again and then she had to go to some anger management and A.A thing but shes drinking again. I hope i can last 1 1/2 more years

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Sooo I was trying to be nice and clean around the house today this morning and she flipped out on me because of it. HAHA She said i started the dish washer half full on purpose because i filled the top and saw stuff in the front on the bottom so i started it haha...And she said im brutal because she was yelling soo i couldnt get a word in and eventually i resorted to yelling and name calling like she was doing.......I wish some of the bad moms would accidentally get cancer unlike my friends good moms...3 of my friends moms have died and they didn't deserve it but on the other hand i think my mom does. Shes the worst mother shes done nothing to make up for all the bad sure shes supported us but at the same time manipulated us, mentally and physically abused us and pushed my buttons to the point where i couldnt handle it and she needs some good mom to come slap some sense into her. SORRY MOM I DIDN"T KNOW THE DAMN DISH WASHER WAS HALF FULL...BITE ME

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