My girlfriend of 3 years recently broke up with me about a month ago. I cant seem to stop thinking about her. I try and text her and call her but she doesnt want to talk to me. I have no idea why she broke up with me. I guess that's why I dont feel like I have closure. I was just wandering if anyone had any advice?

This is a toughie. And I had to learn this the hard way with my girlfriend.. closure doesn't always come right away.. sometimes it takes a very long time, sometimes even until you find someone new who catches your eye and I am not talking about a rebound. I know it is going to seem tough and you are going to be in a lot of pain, but you can work through this.
Also, I know this is going to seem hard to believe.. but it is actually better to not try and contact her after being broken up with. I know that is not easy and how badly it hurts not to be with her, but it is going to be a longer and more painful process if she is around but not actually with you.
I would suggest texting her very nicely and asking her for just a simple answer. That you just want to know why she is breaking up with you and that if it really what she wants then you will give her space and let her go.. but that you really need to know.

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aw, no i am so sorry :/

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I know. I have tried to ask her nicely. I have been nice to her since we broke up. She just seems like a totally different person. I guess she is just going threw stuff and needs her space but thats hard for me b/c people always seem to think I have the answer. I feel like I need to help her or something but I know that's not the case.

I know that you probably want to help her.. more than anything.. but sometimes.. people have to do their own thing. And I know it hurts. Just let her know if there is a problem that she can come to you no matter what, but if she wants you to back off then you will do that as well. Just ask her which one she wants you to do. Hopefully she will respond to that.

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Will do. I mean tonight was the first night I have went out since we broke up and it was terrible. I went to a party with my friends and guess who shows up...her and her new boyfriend. She kept kissing him and stuff in front of me. I mean that makes me more mad that she is with a guy now. I know that sounds crazy but i dont know why I would rather see her with a girl than a guy.

It is understandable. My first love broke up with me telling me I didn't treat her right and that I hurt her more than she could have ever imagined, I found out the reason later was because she was seeing a guy behind my back and he wanted to make it official. It makes you feel like you did something wrong or that you turned her straight or maybe you were just a mistake or an experiment. Either way you look at it, it hurts worse than if she were with another girl.

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Yea thats exactly how I feel. I just need to move on and find someone else. I want to take things slow this time and actually get to know her. Thanks for your help.

Give yourself a bit of time before you try and move on to the next girl.. not only for the girl who you are about to see, but also yourself. You owe it to yourself to make sure they are the right girl before rushing into it. I know it is weird not being in a relationship and how wonderful it seems to be able to show her and everyone else that you have moved on.. but it is for the best to take it slowly.
If you ever need anything or any advice. Never hesitate to leave me a message on here. Just click on the username and you'll get to my profile.. I am more than willing to help with any situation, especially such of this nature.
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Sarah is good with advice (:

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I know and I will if I ever need anymore help. Thanks

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haha yes I've noticed.

Aw. Thank you so much! I just try to do my best to help out, because I know I've been there.

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Try talking with her face to face. If that doesn't work the listen to Sarahdactyl.

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98% of Twilight fans would cry if they saw all four of the Twilight books burning in front of them... the other 2% would be the ones that are burning them.

Yea well she called me today and we are going out to lunch tomorrow. I hope it goes okay. I have no idea of what to say to her.

welcomeeeeeee.

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