So way back in December last year during my school break, I was randomly looking through my Facebook news feed and saw a picture of my friend of mine (not really friends, more just like we know each other) with this really cute girl (well I think she is anyway, some of my friends beg to differ). I didn't know who she was, but found out just her name because of the tag on the photo.

Time passed and I started to like her more and more, even though I've never talked to her (I recall randomly seeing her around school but never paid attention). Once school started in February, I kept seeing her walk by and stuff like that. I decided to send her a friend request on Facebook, but she didn't accept. At the end of the first week, I decided to ask her friend (the friend who the photo I first saw belonged to) and asked for help. She told me a little bit about her friend (like her interests etc) but also told her friend didn't like asians (I'm asian btw-and the girl herself is also half asian). Then the friend kind of decided to ask her out for me out of nowhere (I didn't ask her to, but she decided to) and the friend said she wasn't interested as she doesn't even know who I am. I was left devastated. It was weird, I've never even talked to her but I just portrayed an image of her in my head and kinda fell for it.

Anyway forward to now. 6 Months has passed but I still really like her. After the whole thing, she ended up accepting my facebook friend request but I think she blocked me on chat. To this date, I still haven't talked to her as there is never a chance to get to know her. She's a year above me, we have different friends and don't share any activities. However, by now I'm pretty sure she knows who I look like etc because she and her friends often walk past where I hang out. Even though I barely know her (only based on what her friend told me about her), I'm liking her more and more everyday and it's driving me nuts. However, the problem is I can't befriend her because we have no sort of social connections except for her friend, but I have a feeling she isn't too keen to help (after the whole thing where she tried to help me, she said we will probably never be able to become anything) and I haven't talked to her since either.

I'm not a good looking guy (I'd say below average-average) while she's very pretty (I'd say above average) but I generally think I have a somewhat good personality and I treat girls well (I never mock them or think they're inferior etc) only she doesn't know this. I also know that she's never had any boyfriends or anything and her date for her prom was more of like a friends thing. Most of my friends think I have absolutely no chance with her as there is no way to get to know her, and I'm near 100% sure they're right. I feel like my only shot is to straight up ask her out, and hope for the best (considering she said she wasn't interested back then, can't think of a reason why she will say yes now as we still don't really know each other) but I know it's going to be a rejection and I don't want to leave her creeped out etc by this (it is weird for someone to randomly ask you out for a date). What do you guys think? Is there anything I can do or is it the obvious "time to move on"?

@Takumi Usui-Thanks for the reply! And yeah I felt like it deff did put a bad image, but I really couldn't do much about it. And I thought long and hard about the asian thing, and I have no idea by how much she doesn't like asians. But I sometimes see her at school, and I've never seen her hanging out with an asian person. And yeah I'm considering asking her out, but the only problem is, how am I supposed to deliver it? By now she knows who I am, but we've never talked. I can't just be like "hey I'm that creep who asked you out in february through the mutual friend, do u want to go out?" ya know?

@meg.loomis-Thanks for the reply and I liked how you were clearly honest with me! The problem I see is that I've never talked to her, but she already knows I like her and I think it's quite awkward between us. The whole "start talking and becoming friends thing" will probably never work as she will always know I like her etc. I feel like I either have to ask her out and see what she says. The problem is, that mutual friend isn't really a friend of mine. It's actually by best mate's sister, and until this all happened, I've actually never talked to her. And since this all happened, we haven't talked once. So really, in her mind, it seems like I just used her to try get with this chick. There has been many times where I've wanted to talk with the mutual friend and try become friends with her, but I never had the guts to and I feel like it's now too late.

It's also worth noting that I coincidentally meet this girl a lot at school. I'm not some creep who stalks her or anything but I often see her when I'm walking to the courts etc. And everytime I see her, I feel like we meet eye and eye and it gets more awkward. The other day, she was right there when I got off the bus and we walked in silence, side by side for like 30 seconds. I feel like the longer I spend doing nothing, the more awkward its going to get.

Hey guys still need help!

I know if I just randomly ask her out, it won't work. I mean hell if some chick randomly asked me out I'll probably say no unless she's someone who seems awesome or is really hot Anyway back to topic, when I say ask out, I don't mean like "hey lets become gf/bf" kinda thing, I mean like ask her on a date and explain that I've liked her and I want one chance with her kind of thing.

meg.loomis wrote:

She would still probably say no though.. If some dude (you said you're younger too?) in the grade below me who I have never ever spoken to just cane up to me and said "hey let's go get lunch", I would shut him down. No questions asked.

That's true. But wouldn't you at least her him out?

Ok fair enough. Also its probably worth noting I've never stalked her or done anything creepy like that.

Hey guys so I have some big update! Please read my first post or you won't understand this part!

So as you know, I kinda randomly asked her out through our mutual friend on accident kinda thing, and she was really surprised and rejected me. Well today she was online on FB, like first time I've seen her online, so I decided I want to talk to her. But I didn't know how to break the ice, as I have no idea what she thinks of me. Has she forgotten over me? Does she think of me as a creepy guy who asked her out without ever talking to her (accident btw)? Anyway I decided the best way was to apologize to her, and see how she reacts to it. This is what I said:
Hey, way earlier this year, I like randomly had a crush on you. And then I didn't really know you so I kinda asked (mutual friend) for help who then kinda asked you out on my behalf and it got really weird and shit. I'm really sorry for all that and yeah I know its been ages but I never really had the balls to tell you but I kinda feel like I owe you an apology for the immature shit i did.

She then replied:
oh dont worry about it haha i didnt really know much about what was going on... twas slightly strange but algoods

I then said:
yeah it kinda was lol
I thought u were really cute and knew u were friends with (mutual friend)
and then (mutual friend) said a bunch of nice things about u
i didnt really plan nor ask for the whole asking out thing
and i assumed you thought it was pretty fucking weird

She then replied:
haha well thank you. Yeah dont worry about it, everyone gets crushes. its allgood

I wanted to keep talking to her, but it might seem weird so I just stopped there. She seems like a good person, and wasn't hurt by the whole thing at all, so I'm thinking of giving it a shot with her. What do you think? When I ask my friends, they're relatively 50/50 on it. Some say I should maybe try after some time (a week to a month or so) while others said I should now move on and be happy that she gave me a chance to give this whole thing a closure.