Confused what this girl wants. HELP !

    • Confused what this girl wants. HELP !

      I used to have kind of flirt relationship with this girl a few months ago, she said she doesn't want relationship until we get to know each other well. We kept hanging out and stuff with my friends and her friends until one of my friends started to flirt with her, well i noticed a lot of flirting between them, and i got into a fight with the girl multiple times because i was so jealous. A few months later they were both drunk and ended up making out + my friend slept at her house.

      She wanted to try again but i was so mad at her that we fought and the girl was mad at me for a long time, she ended up removing me from fb + from her phone, and everywhere else.


      2 months later she added me back and said that she want's to be my friend again, we had a lot of tension between us so we didn't talk for week, however i was the one who started to talk to her again (on facebook)

      we talked and talked every single day, usually for very late. But the thing is that she talks about really weird stuff like what shes wearing and stuff like that with every detail, what you don't usually tell to friend :D but she still has a little game going on such as she told me she has a boyfriend, but then she told that she was just joking with me..

      Also she can ask questions such as "where are you" what she has never asked before, when i reply "Why do you want to know?" she usually answers "You know that i want to know so tell me"

      When i see her at mall or other places she instantly smiles when she sees me and seems a little bit shy. (What she used to be when we had crush on each other)

      Lately i was flirting with her since we always talk for so long i was kind of teasing her with words like "I know that you love talking to me" but she said it makes her confused so i stopped it

      Lately we haven't talked much neither of us start the conversation

      I really have no idea what the girl wants, does she just want to be friend or more?

      Sorry for bad grammar i'm from iceland.

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    • Re: Confused what this girl wants. HELP !

      Hhhhhh.....Ok, I've been in this situation MULTIPLE times.... And well, Think about it, if she is teasing and flirting with you in a sexual manner, then you already know that she wants to be with you mainly for a couple of reasons. More or less.
      1. Sex,
      2. To have a controlling grip over you, so she knows that she can make men stumble over her like she's ice,
      3. So she can figure out your weaknesses and exploit them,
      4. So later on, if you guys do hook up, she will break up with you and see if she really does have that power to be a 'Fine Bitch' or just a hot chick enough to make you hate life because life 'wouldn't be complete without her'.

      OR
      1. She really likes you, but thinks talking dirty to you is the only way to your heart,
      2. Likes you so much that she is willing to explain every small detail,
      or
      3. Thinks your gay now.
      But I don't know this girl, so I really can't say much. This is something you mainly have to figure out on your own. And I think your grammar is fine. :)

    • Re: Confused what this girl wants. HELP !

      AnimeBell

      Thanks for the long answer, really helped me out, that's a kind of answer i've been waiting for.

      There is no way i'm gay, that's for sure :D i may care about my clothes and stuff like that like every teenager does but i don't act like gay haha :D

      And you said that you don't know what the girl is like, i can give you few examples what she is like:

      1. She loves attention, she loves to go to party's and shake and stuff like that.

      2. She had low self esteem but now it feels like its too high, since she is playing with people

      3. Back when i had crush on her, and she ended up making out with my friend, she dumped me for week because she said she didn't know how she feels towards me, later on she said that she really cares about me and she is confused about herself (was after my "friend" and she had made out and stuff) the friend got together with somebody else and 2 months after that she added me back.

      4. She is a little bit spoiled, she can basically destroy her computer or a brand new samsung galaxy s3 and get a new one after having a worse phone for a while.

      5. She is one of the best looking girls around this area also.

      6. Also she can be really two-faced, for an example she can act like everything is fine when she actually thinks the opposite way about things.

      Hope those help a little bit to know about her

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    • Re: Confused what this girl wants. HELP !

      Sounds almost exactly like this chick I know named Mandie.... Like, exactly. And my thoughhts still are the same. I think she is trying to have a controlling grip over you man. Try to let go. Let me ask you this, does she wear really vulgar stuff? Like low hanging, tight shirts and skinny jeans that just seem too tight? If so, then I have a suggestion. Try to hang around people who dress more modestly. I mean, really. Enough is enough. When I had that problem, I did this and found myself falling for a girl, really nice, and she didn't try to do all of that stuff that you described that girl as. She never wore low hanging shirts and almost always was around great, nice, responsible people. So, it's only natural that she was too! She told me the truth when I asked her out, that she just liked me as maybe a big brother or something, but you know what, I rarely even thought about Mandie again, much less dating or liking her! Haha, that, and I have some great new friends. :) so try it out. It'll be fun. Good luck!
      "All religions that have destroyed people is based on love.". -Anton LeVay

    • Re: Confused what this girl wants. HELP !

      AnimeBell wrote:

      Sounds almost exactly like this chick I know named Mandie.... Like, exactly. And my thoughhts still are the same. I think she is trying to have a controlling grip over you man. Try to let go. Let me ask you this, does she wear really vulgar stuff? Like low hanging, tight shirts and skinny jeans that just seem too tight? If so, then I have a suggestion. Try to hang around people who dress more modestly. I mean, really. Enough is enough. When I had that problem, I did this and found myself falling for a girl, really nice, and she didn't try to do all of that stuff that you described that girl as. She never wore low hanging shirts and almost always was around great, nice, responsible people. So, it's only natural that she was too! She told me the truth when I asked her out, that she just liked me as maybe a big brother or something, but you know what, I rarely even thought about Mandie again, much less dating or liking her! Haha, that, and I have some great new friends. :) so try it out. It'll be fun. Good luck!


      Thanks for the tips,

      Yeah she's just like that, like she always has very tight jeans and tops and stuff like that so she looks super fit in front of people and the positive thing is that i don't really have much feelings for her left and i've been meeting loads of new people lately so it'll be fine :D

    • Re: Confused what this girl wants. HELP !

      This chick has you on her hook. She never fully commits to you, yet never quite lets you slip away either. Your description of her personality on further convinced me of this. She enjoys the attention of you liking her - it's a nice little self-esteem boost as well - and thereby keeps you interested by returning every so often, talking to you, flirting maybe, still never committing. Whilst your heart will try to convince you every time she returns it is because she likes you back, you need to ignore it. Take a step back, talk to some other girls, try to move on :)